Okay fine, I’m not just looking to get on your depth chart. But I am looking for someone that wants to cut loose, not take ourselves too seriously, and have some fun figuring out what may or may not be.

Insert “not looking to change anyone’s situation” tag line here.

But for real. I’m missing something, you’re missing something. We are both adults trying to make the most out of this big bad life. If we just knew the secret signal to throw out… that little nod to all the other cheaty folks out there letting them know “I see you, I hear you, and I’m right there with you.”

I did try carrying around the upside down pineapple for a while, but being continually propositioned by hot wives when I just wanted to finish my grocery shopping grew tiresome. So here is my bat signal.

I’ve been married a good long time and physical intimacy is just not part of the deal. I love my wife and family, and I hope you love yours as well. But all relationships can’t be all the things on all the levels. I know I’ve still got a lot of good years left in me, and I’m just not willing to let my life pass on by without it.

So I want to build a genuine connection that dances on that line of more-than-a-friendship but not full blown romance. I want all the flirty feels and butterflies. I want the good morning and good night messages. I want to sneaky check my phone to see if you have sent any pictures of that concert you are going to.

And I want the tension to simmer and smolder. I want lunch dates on some weeks, and hotel escapades on others. I want to be close enough that we get goosebumps thinking about our next rendezvous, but far enough to keep from getting reckless.

Because this is, as we both know, an escape from reality. It works precisely because it is not reality. So we are able to put it back in its little box and keep it flickering until the time comes to meet again.

A bit about me…. I’m a 43 yo dude who is best described as a 6’ smoke show with a rugged yet athletic build. Kind of a cross between Yellowstone and NFL. But I really only get that when I am on my side gig as an underwear model.

Most all other times I’m best described as an average middle aged dad. I’m on the slim side, but it’s taking more work to keep the 40s beat back. I’m putting in the time though. Honestly, it’s not as much about physique as it is keeping my body healthy and moving. There are things I want to do in life and I want my body to still be on my side when I am old and gray!

Oh… and about that gray. I rock a burly lumberjack beard that is mostly gray. Fine, it’s all gray. Not quite Gandalf level, but definitely has some Paul Bunyan vibes. I keep my hair buzzed short and wear glasses. No tattoos, yet. But I have an appointment on the books for my first.

Favorite hobbies are hiking, camping, and reading. And Broadway musicals! I know, I know… not a deal breaker but it sure would be fun if we shared that interest.

And for you: I’m really just looking for that other person out there who is looking for that other person out there. Let’s start off with some shared interests and see where the conversation takes us. I’ve learned that attraction can come in the most unlikely of places, so I try to keep an open mind and open heart.

So… if you’re still reading, might as well slide on into my DMs