Hi there. If you get the headline, and I don’t mean the recent movie, then you can relate to my sense of humor. Fair warning, this is a long post, but you're worth every word.

I'm an experienced, creative, and active married man looking for a similar married woman to unleash our passion for life and a yearning to be challenged and pushed to her limits to explore her sexualty for a mutually rewarding relationship.

About Me

Physically- I’m 52 years old, married 20 years, tall (6’2”), full head of short blonde hair and blue eyes. I’m not perfect and I don’t pretend to be, but I like who I am. I’m energetic, active, DDF and non-smoker with a high endurance and repeatability (i.e. everything works and works more than once with no drugs required). Physical, mental and emotional care is important to me and I practice it quite well.

Personality- I’m a mixture of passion, fearlessness, and sarcasm with a good measure of deviance to keep it interesting. I was raised to be a strong gentleman, yet learned to not put up a shell in sharing aspects of myself I wouldn’t otherwise share. My belief is a woman should be free to live how she wants, and when she needs me I’ll be there to rescue her from her mundane life. I don’t have a constant need for validation and provide respectful space when wanted. People describe me as witty, easy to talk to, open, curious, patient and driven. With three degrees, I consider myself educated, like to keep up with current events and can hold conversations beyond just chatting about sex. I fully believe in mental stimulation as part of foreplay and have been told I excel at it. Above all, I have a great sense of humor with a large dose of sarcasm to go along with it, teasing and taunting my playmate in a fun way. While I have a Dom side, my respect for boundaries means you’ll need not fear being pushed into something you are uncomfortable doing rather I provide a safe space for you to explore your limits and become the sexual woman you desire to be.

Interests- My interests are diverse and include a mix of social and homebound activities. I spend a large amount of time writing and reading, and squeeze in time working out and doing assorted outdoor activities. My other hobby is B&W photography which is a relatively new interest. I also enjoy going out to social events and fundraiser activities in the community including events with my affair partner. People describe me as adventurous and daring, a risk taker. I’m open to new ideas and new challenges to push my limits.

Daily Life- I’m self employed allowing me to set my hours and schedule as I want. Being independent, I can travel so out of town trips are possible with time for planning making long distance relationships successful for me in the past. Another benefit of being self employed is I’m able to make time for my partner throughout the day and evenings and I expect the same.

Who I’m Looking For

Let’s be honest here, this is an extramarital relationship. I’m married, so to should you. It means equal risk for us both. As far as age goes, I ask that you be 30 as I find the younger ladies aren’t as committed and serious about the affair. I also find it easier to relate to an older woman who offers something the younger women don’t. Looks aren’t as important as long as you take care of yourself; I’m not shallow. Confidence is very sexy, and if you are happy with who you are, I will be too.

My ideal partner in this should feel she needs this type of relationship to fulfill a void missing at home. She should realize she has a life at home yet desires an escape from time to time. Her personality should match with mine and be able to tolerate witty banter and occasional sarcasm. I want my partner to be available for this type of relationship. I know careers and family exist, but I do look to communication to keep things fresh and alive without being needy.

Location- This the affairs sub. I’m willing to start online but want to meet IRL if things should develop. I’m in Kansas (Wichita area) for whatever that’s worth. I do travel and for the right woman can arrange away trips with some planning. I can manage the long distance with someone I find special if she is willing to put forth the work as well. In fact I’ve found long distance to be safer and more relaxing.

Deal Breakers- My major deal breakers are cigarette smokers, nonDDF, not being honest about things in how the relationship is going, or looking for money to change hands. If you aren’t serious about this type of relationship, I would prefer to not waste time. I’m all in and committed to the cause; you should be too.

The Relationship

I’m looking for one partner to share a (hopefully) long term mutually exclusive relationship. This includes regular conversations via text, voice and video, sharing and experiencing fantasies, and generally being satisfied in ways we aren’t at home. I want regular engagements where we can unwind and be ourselves. As I mentioned, if we should progress to IRL the possibility exists for getaways and vacations. I’m ultimately looking for a good mental and emotional connection and hopefully a physical connection without changing your situation or mine.

Experience- This is not my first affair. I do hope though I’ll find one where I won’t need to go looking for another. Over the years I’ve learned what I like and what I am after hence this long post. If this is your first time, I’ll be kind and offer advice to make it a pleasurable experience for you. I’m an open book and if you ask I’ll tell. If it’s not your first, then you already know.

If this long post has piqued your interest, I hope you will drop me a note. Tell me where you are from and what’s your fantasy of getting tied up.