I am an early 40s professional. I've been married 20 years, school-age kids, not looking to change anything. Obviously I am here because I feel like I am missing something that I am struggling without, but I cannot pretend that things are terrible or that my wife is awful. For whatever reason, emotional and physical intimacy has really been a struggle for a long time. There are real things missing, but we get along and co-parent well and have affection for each other and all of that. I don't want to go on and on about that here, and I am happy to talk more about my situation--or not--but I feel like it is important to be clear about at least my basic situation and what I can and cannot offer. I want to be as honest as I can, in part because I do want a real connection, so I am not going to pretend to hate her or that it is a DB or anything like that.

I am not in a huge hurry to rush into anything, I like talking to and getting to know someone, seeing where it goes. I love learning what someone likes, what their fantasies and desires are, what they really want. And, of course, I like to play whatever role I can in delivering that. I have pretty broad tastes, and I really think that fundamentally I like to please and I like the intimacy of sharing private desires and experiences. I used to wonder what connected all the various things that I am into, but have come to believe that is boils down to intimacy. I love to know what is on your mind. I appreciate feedback. I value open-mindedness, a high EQ, and empathy.

Logistically, I have the most physical availability on weekdays. I am pretty good at making myself available digitally though. I am an effective communicator (especially in writing) and am not someone who is going to go dark or leave you wondering what I am really thinking.