I hope your Thanksgiving was full of more family fun than family drama. Mine trended towards the latter, but it’s good to be back in the weekday groove and I’m looking forward to making some connections here!

Let’s kick it off with a little bit about you.

You are a confident and successful woman. Success can mean a lot of things, but whatever it was you set out to do you look back on with a sense of pride and satisfaction. Your life is good, and you love your family.

If life is so good,  why the hell are you on this corner of Reddit?!? Well… Life is multi-faceted. You have hit middle age and have realized there is more out there you want to experience. You are a passionate woman and you know what you want. But the spark is just not there in your marriage and you are not going to let life continue to slip by without it.

This human experience has room for so many different kinds of connections. It’s our different connections with different people on different levels that make life so amazing. So you set out to find that missing one here.

You are looking for a guy that shares a similar desire. Someone with a shared experience of a marriage lacking physical intimacy. Someone looking to create an authentic connection that can lead to that missing piece.

You want to build a friendship with a thread of romance. Messages through the day, banter on our shared interests, and getting to know the things that make each other who we are. You want to look forward to the good mornings and good nights.

But it needs to be more than just messages. While we both have busy lives, we also make time for sushi lunch dates (except on taco tuesday… of course). Because what you really want is to get to know another person beyond the limits of the internet. And you want the messages to get you excited for flirty lunch dates that build the tension into hotel rendezvous. You don’t need it to happen overnight, but we both know where we want to end up.

If this sounds a bit like you, 👋🏻. I'm please to meet you. We should get to know each other a little better.

I’m a 5’9 43yo white man rocking a burly but well groomed and mostly gray lumberjack beard. I’m on the slim side and stay active, but I can’t claim an athletic build. I have a witty but somewhat dry sense of humor, love great books, and sometimes think the best way to say what you are thinking is by sending a Spotify playlist.

My daytime schedule is very flexible. I like to message through the evenings as well, but I don’t have any intention of becoming a detached dad so I’m more limited there. I’d like to move to Telegram pretty quickly if there is a vibe, and get right to the picture swap to make sure there is attraction. No sense in investing too much time if that is not there!

I’d love to message daily, but not get too hung up when we can’t. We both have our own lives and they will always come first. In real life, we’d meet a few times a month-ish. Geography will play a big part in how often we can meet, but I am on the road a lot and making time for this is a priority. Sometimes we can steal a quick coffee date, and sometimes we can take the afternoon to take each other 😉.

If you are still here reading… I guess my chances are looking bright! Might as well slide on into my DMs and see if there is something here!