Looking for an in-person AP within about an hour from home. Not opposed to someone close, but 30-45 mins away is ideal. You may be able to figure out my central location from this.

MD – Fred/MoCo/Carroll/WashCo, NOVA, Southern PA, Eastern Panhandle WV

Yes, I listed many areas. Any of those can work. I will do the driving, I do it anyway for work.

My ‘bio’ is further down, but first, here’s what I have to offer and the steps that I propose:

1.      I am a fairly good-looking guy in good shape with a good (sometimes dark and sarcastic) sense of humor. Responsible, but fun. Self-employed and in charge of my schedule. No suspicions at home. There’s more info about me further down if you want to read it. 

2.      I won’t be talking to several people at one time. There’s a lot more guys out there, and if a woman puts an ad up, they get an overwhelming number of responses. It’s much lighter for guys. I’ve had a couple overlaps, but mostly not. We all have lives to lead and are busy, I have time for ONE person at a time. I will give you my “full” attention, unless we come to decision to move on. (Full attention being the time I have to dedicate to this endeavor.) 

3.      Available for some texting on here to start. Then, move to telegram and exchange pics. If you don’t find me attractive, move on. I know that to some, physical attraction is important. I am not going to try to change your mind. Just close out the conversation and move on. Don’t just ghost me and waste my time, leaving the conversation “read.” If you can’t handle just being honest, then delete the conversation (for both of us.) Let me get on with other things. I’ll give you the same consideration, but I will say, I am less about looks and more about personality and maturity. I don’t care if you are not – it’s fine. If you like what you see, get whatever info you want from me to get comfortable with meeting in person. 

4.      Meet for coffee or drinks. This will just look like a casual business meeting that I do all the time. Once we get to this point, I will share more information about myself, and we can text more freely when you want. If we want to meet a few times, I am fine with that. I AM NOT trying to rush to sex, I AM trying to rush to get to know you. This is a decision that I am taking very seriously and don’t mind it taking some time, but we need to meet.

5.      No dick pics, and no requests for naughty pics of you. It’s not really my thing. I am looking for an in-person AP. I need to know you are real and not a scammer. Don’t take offense to not being trusted, I will trust you when I know you. This is a completely different experience for men and women. Be understanding of that. I will do the same. I get that it’s a different set of dangers for each of us and we both have risk. An in-person meeting can be one of those concerns, so figure out how you will be comfortable, or we are not even going to get this off the ground. If you need help, I will give you some suggestions. If we don’t work out, at least you will have it figured out for the next person you meet. I wouldn’t want ANYONE to put themselves in any kind of danger.

Now more about me. If you are not the tl;dr type, then read on:

I am a 49 y.o. father of 2 great kids. 5’-10" – 190lbs. White. Good hair. Nicely groomed.

Most of my life is great. I’ve been married for over 20 years. My SO and I get along fine and enjoy doing things together, but she only wants occasional intimacy. It’s just who she is. We care for each other and honestly, I think this will help our marriage. It will take some of the pressure off the whole situation. We’ve done the due process and talked through all of it. We are both intelligent people. Things are just not going to change for her and neither of us wants a divorce or all that comes with it. I don’t want to force something on her just for my happiness and at the expense of hers. I don’t want to have resentment deep down. I do not want to hurt her either. We will happily retire together when that time comes. Discretion is a must. I am just trying to satisfy a small piece of who I am. That doesn’t mean I am looking for a purely physical relationship. I am looking for a personal connection as well. Yes, there will be some feelings. That is expected. We should both be mature enough to handle ourselves responsibly. You should love your SO. If you don’t, we are not in the same situation.

I’m not too picky about your body type. Personality goes a long way for me. You don’t have to have a great body, just own what you’ve got.  I want someone who is comfortable in their own skin. We all have insecurities.  I am in decent shape and take pretty good care of myself. I play a high-intensity sport twice a week. I’d say it is a little better than the average dad bod.  I do not look my age and am told very frequently. My preference is for natural women, with normal bodies. That means you come with “imperfections”. I am more than fine with that.  

I would like to have a person in a similar situation to me. You're happy for the most part, but just missing that little extra. I want it to be fun and exciting, but easy – once we get to that point. I would be up for as frequently as once a week, or every 2 weeks on average. Weekdays before 5 are easiest. Evenings and weekends are tougher, but not out of the question. They just require more planning. I will not go “radio silence” after 5 on weekdays – texting will just be more sporadic – same with weekends. I am also fine if you need to go silent for evenings and weekends.

Try to be clear about what you want. Be clear about the time you have. I don’t want to guess. I don’t want to not communicate enough and have you think I am not interested. Don't take my caution as lack of interest. I don’t want to text too much and seem like I am needy. This has already been an issue with several people. Just define it as much as you can. People try to read too much into the online portion of this and it’s frustrating.

If this all makes sense to you. Let's talk.