What I seek is a fulfilling, real, non-superficial relationship where we supplement and enhance each other’s day-to-day living. While I’m not looking to disrupt each other’s lives in any real way, I feel that saying that we “aren’t looking to change each other’s situations” is a bit silly. Of course we’re looking to change our situations. Otherwise, why would we be here?

So I’m married with a young child, smart, articulate, well-read, intense, literate, career-oriented woman. I can hold my part of a conversation but need you to do that too. Things I enjoy: casual exercise for physical and mental health, reading, watching shows, board games, getting to know someone new, long drives, exploring old towns and finding new places to go. Not afraid to have deeper conversations. At heart, a bit of a romantic and yet logical enough to know that ultimately, what I seek is to live out a bit of a fantasy and build a bubble with you. I do believe it possible to have a world like this without disrupting each other’s lives.

I seek out this kind of man: 40 - 50, local enough where we could potentially have coffee with one another, grab lunch, that kind of thing a couple times a month depending on where we both live. Someone who is happy enough to keep in touch in-between meeting. A pocket boyfriend, I suppose. Of course, there might be more than just coffee when we are both ready. Curious, married, have kids, liberal, confident without being arrogant, respectful, can hold your part of a conversation, educated, romantic, emotional, professional, not afraid of falling into like with someone, intelligent, and not in a rush to meet or to make things sexual right away. Willing to build a strong emotional bond first and actually get to know me, and willing to share things about himself without me having to play 20 questions in order to get that information out of him. I want to know it all, even the non-exciting and non-sexy parts, and I want to share those parts of my life with him. I want him to be open and not passive.

What I’ve come to realize is that physical attraction is important but not the primary thing for me. I do, however, like men who are taller than me (5’3”) and who take care of themselves physically (and emotionally). I also know that what is written in this world about physical appearance is usually next to meaningless so I’ve purposely decided to omit that part. I have a wide range of types I can be attracted to & believe that when you know, you just know. I’m happy to exchange pictures once we have established that we can exchange more than a few words with each other. Let’s just see if there is anything there on both sides.

If you feel you fit the bill, please reply back with the following: your age, location, some details about yourself that you think I should know about, the book that you’re currently reading, and what you’re enjoying about it.