Thanks for clicking on my post! I'm putting this out into the Reddit ether in hopes of connecting with the right person for me. I realize this will be long, and it will only resonate with the right person. I know there's a small number of women, if any women at all, that this will reach. I'm hopeful you're out there!

You'll always get 100% honesty from me. No point in being inauthentic with this relationship. My marriage is already one. I'm putting it all out there of what I'm needing, and my hope is the right person will see this.

Well, I guess before I do that I should say some things about myself. This is always the hard part. I don't like talking about me. I'm very much a people pleaser, which can be a problem at times since I don't always express what *I* want or need as to not make the other upset. Not planning on doing that here, again, it's scary, but I'm going to be 100% open, good, bad, or ugly.

I'm genuinely a nice guy. Can we all be jerks periodically? Sure, but when I am that way it's unintentional and I feel extremely guilty afterwards.

I am looking to fall in love. I do want all the feels. Yes, life is tough, but I'll give this relationship my all.

Am I promising never to leave my wife? No. I'm not taking anything off the table. If we click and we're a perfect match, why should both of us stay miserable in our current situations? Is that a freaking scary thing? 100% it is. But life is too damned short to be so miserable. It truly is.

I have 4 kiddos, 11-21 years of age. My kids obviously are a priority.

I am looking for in person meet ups, not online only. I do travel all around Central VA for my job (that's a big area and you'd be surprised what is considered central VA), so meeting up would not be a problem.

I'm a college football fan (Roll Tide! Btw, I don't care about any other sports, just those 15 or so Saturdays a year). I'm also a big Trekkie. Like huge. I do personally play golf, but I've had zero time lately, so it's been a while.

I'm a very deep and emotional person. Meaning, when I feel things, they're really raw and real. I don't shy away from those types of conversations. You would be the type of person that doesn't shy away from those either and wants to go all in and give our relationship your best shot.

I'm 5'8" tall, thin build, light brown hair (with gray on the sides), blue eyes, glasses, and I dress more preppy...slacks, collared or button down shirt, and I'm always clean shaven. No beard or facial hair here.

I do smoke on occasion. Being in the car travelling as much as I do for work, my free time and down time is in the car, so I like to indulge. I know that's a deal breaker for some, but the person who would respond to this would most likely be a smoker, too, since me smoking on occasion wouldn't bother you.

I also like to relax with a bourbon in the evening, or a beer. Not every night, I'm not a lush. And I hate hangovers, so I don't normally do more than 2 drinks when I do drink. I'm certainly not a partyer.

A perfect evening would be relaxing on a deck/porch, with a drink, some deep/funny/serious/light conversation with you, while we have a few cigarettes and enjoy each other's company, followed by making out and some love making to end the evening.

What I'm hoping to find.... I know it's a long shot, but I'm laying it all out.

Age? No real age requirements. I'm open to anyone, seriously. Do I have a preconceived range that I feel would work best? Yes. 30-45 years old. Again though, I'm all about a connection and I don't want to rule anyone out.

Height? Short, tall, average, I'm open. Height is not important to me.

Race? Open to all! No requirements there either.

Smoker? Well, given I smoke on occasion, I'd prefer you be a smoker yourself. If you vape, that's fine, too. And I'm not into pot, I'm strictly talking cigarettes.

Drinker? Yes. Moderation of anything is key. Current situation, I sit down and pour a drink every now and then and I get the stink eye and disgusting looks. She doesn't drink at all, and doesn't understand why anyone would. I just want to be me and enjoy a drink with someone sometimes. I'm not hard to please.

Honesty? Yes... Be yourself, 100% of the time. Even if you're afraid of being yourself, don't be with me. I am on this scary journey, too, and I will be my corny joke self, my uncomfortable in silence self, my I won't be perfect self. But I will always be me. And I want you to always be you, your authentic self.

Politics? I don't care about your politics. I get along with everyone and respect different positions. I'm more center right myself, so Republican. I only bring this up because it seems to be the first thing people ask. At least that's been my experience. I just feel you're missing out on so much if you limit yourself politically. But that's just me.

Please be able to hold a conversation. I know life happens, I don't expect immediate responses, but daily communication throughout the day and evening would be nice.

As you can see from my long post, me talking isn't a problem. LOL

Reddit CHAT only... and honestly, I'll never move away from that unless I leave my current situation. So, Reddit chat is where we will exist with communication.

Tell me what resonated with you in your reply. I need more than "hey". Include a pic, since we all know a level of physical attraction is a must (your pic gets mine).

I wish everyone the very best of luck out there. I hope you all find what you need. Take care!