(reposting. I have been posting for a while. Have had a few chats, a few meetups but havent found a match yet. I am looking for the one. I will wait as long as it takes … and yes I have seen a therapist, and a couple counselor and I know what I am doing. I know what I want and don't want. And I am ruthlessly honest about it)

Hear me out.

You are in your golden years. Maybe your body is giving up a bit. And you think what if I stepped out of my marriage and chased that elusive butterfly. What if I went for that kiss. What if I did agree to reply to that person who had been looking for "one". What if we were 1 1 = 3.

I think about this a lot.

About Me:

• Married dad with two kids.
• Mid-40s, in good shape (5'10", 175 lbs), salt-and-pepper full head of hair, brown eyes.
• Charming and handsome, as described by potential APs.
• Live in Bellevue, work in Seattle. Steep career trajectory. Love what I do.
• Drug, disease and drama free.
• In Dead bedroom - libido mismatch (if you’re in the same boat, I feel for you).
• Outdoorsy: love biking, pickleball, working out.
• A huge sci-fi and board game nerd who loves a great conversation.
• Down-to-earth, good listener, genuinely curious about others.
• Not into drinking but love good food and good company.
• Discreet, understanding, and respectful of your boundaries

About You:

• You've built a life based on doing what’s right: Caring husband, Loving family, Rewarding job
• Life is steady, comfortable, and good—yet there’s an underlying longing for something more.
• The familiar routine feels almost too predictable, sparking curiosity about life beyond “good.”
• Stability is fulfilling, but the idea of a little thrill is enticing.
• Near my age and within about 2 hours of Seattle.
• Careful and discreet to indulge into this lifestyle.
• A space to set aside the dutiful role, embrace a hidden, wilder side.
• Down to swap pics early on—let’s be respectful of each other’s time

You want

• To dress up and feel captivating
• To be noticed, desired, and admired with a spark of possessiveness
• There's a craving for a taste of the forbidden: Just enough to rekindle appreciation for the life you've built
• Looking for friendship first; if there’s a vibe, maybe more.
• Real, genuine, and open to something that could be long-term.

What I’m Looking For:

• One real connection, someone who’s also thinking what if?
• Open to catching feelings—because I believe love doesn’t have to be a zero-sum game.
• This isn’t just about sex; it’s about finding someone to feel alive with.

Bonus: If you’re into fitness, even better! I’m heavy into working out and can even coach a bit—strength training, biking, pickleball, you name it. Maybe we start there and see if we vibe. Very low effort and if nothing else comes out of it, you at least got the workout.