Hey there, I’m someone who knows what it feels like to crave something more—whether it’s attention, affection, or simply a meaningful connection.

I’m 45, 5'10", 170 lbs, well-groomed, full head of salt and pepper hair, well-read, well-traveled, drug-disease free and thriving in my career on Seattle’s eastside. Brag alert: I’ve been told I’m handsome, easy to talk to, and carry myself well (and nope, not just by my mom—this comes from potential APs).

I’m married, but dealing with a dead-bedroom situation because of a libido mismatch. If you’re living through the same, I get it—it's tough. I’ve had an AP before, and while she moved away, it was an incredible connection in 3 ways: emotional, intellectual and physical. Now, I’m hoping to create those magic moments again with someone special.

I’m looking for an AP who’s also married and craving a secret boyfriend to add some fun (and spice) to life. No interest in financial exchanges, no one under 35, and definitely not looking to disrupt your or my current situation.

Here’s what matters most to me:

1. I’m Real – I’m not here to waste anyone’s time or play games. I’m genuinely looking for someone who wants to connect on a deeper level.

2. I’m Reliable – I understand how hard it can be when you’re not getting the attention you deserve. I’m not flaky, and I’ll be present, showing up when you need someone to talk to, share with, or just be around.

3. Emotional First – I’m not looking for a quick fling. I believe that real intimacy comes after forming a solid bond of trust and friendship. The emotional connection always makes the physical connection more rewarding, and that’s what I’m after.

4. I Take Care of Myself – I’m in good shape, both mentally and physically. I believe that’s part of showing respect to my partner. I’ve worked hard to stay healthy and attractive, and I want to bring my best self into this relationship.

5. No Guilt Loops – I’ve been in this place before, and I know exactly why I’m here. I’ve made peace with my choices, and I’ve learned how to balance the different aspects of my life. There’s space for everything—my family, my work, and a connection that’s just for me and you.

6. Love Grows When It’s Shared – I don’t believe love or affection is a limited resource. The more you give, the more it grows. I’m looking for someone who understands that and is ready to share in something meaningful.

If you’re looking for more than just a fleeting encounter, and you want to build something based on trust, friendship, and passion, let’s talk. We’ll keep things discreet, but with honesty and respect at the core.

P.S. I get that as a girl, you’re likely getting tons of messages and have options. Let’s cut through the noise—if you want, we can have a quick chat or video call on Telegram/Signal. It’ll take less than 5 minutes to see if we’re each other’s type. No hard feelings if we’re not a match—just be upfront, I will wish you well be respectful of your time.