I had the song stuck in my head as I was coming home from the gym this afternoon, and I realize I haven't been my full, true, authentic self.

That said, if this post strikes your fancy, then I encourage you to do the same, come as you are, not as what others think you should be.

Of course, I have to give you a reason to want to reach out.

Who am I? I'm a married male in NYC that is in a situation where I don't have the chance to be my full, authentic self. I am also in a DB situation. Hence, why I'm here.

I am queer, pansexual to be exact. For those that are genuinely curious and may not know:

• Does this mean I don't like women? No
  
• Does this mean that I am looking to have multiple relationships? Also no (and yes, I understand the irony of saying that in an ad looking for a relationship outside of the monogamous one I am in already).

I have very progressive views on a number of other things. I am deeply leftist, think that gender/sexuality norms are stupid (but have crazy cis hetero passing privilege), ACAB and a bunch more.

I saw an ad on Reddit not too long ago that countered the typical "don't want to change your situation or mine" narrative: it said they wanted all the feels, they want the good mornings, the good nights, and everything in between.

I have to say, I agree wholeheartedly. I'm not saying that I want you to leave your relationship, but I want someone who wants to feel all the things with me.

I'm a deeply sexual person and I want someone who is the same. This doesn't mean that I'm looking to be sexual immediately or all the time. It means that I want someone who loves sex, loves sex with someone they are into/connected deeply with, and more concerned about the pleasure experienced by everyone instead of what is taboo or unknown (and yet safe at all times).

I know this is a bit heavy off the bat. I apologize for that. In the past, I've had some wonderful conversations, but when they find out 👆 about me, there are many whom it doesn't align with (and that's ok!). I figure, let's get that out of the way first, and hopefully the rest will fall into place.

Does this mean I'm looking for every moment of every day to be filled with interactions around leftist agendas and sexuality?

Absolutely not. I'm looking for someone who does not shy away from these things.

What else about me?

• 49 years old
  
• 5'6"
  
• 192 lbs with a powerlifter build (because I powerlift)
  
• Short, brown hair with grey spots
  
• Clean shaven/stubble

And interests? Plenty:

• Travel, but I hate the process of getting from point a to b, it sucks (unless we're talking trains in Japan, in which case, I love it)
  
• Powerlifting
  
• Baseball (lifelong Yankee fan here)
  
• Movies, TV (I love to think I have cultured tastes and a critical eye, but I have my guilty pleasures as well, for example, I loved Gossip Girl, both iterations)
  
• Sci-fi/comics
  
• Video games (although I rarely play, and when I do, I play a very specific niche that has a community I'm a part of)

I'm a father. You don't have to have kids, but I wouldn't shun you if you did.

What am I looking for?

To start, someone who has the desire and *time* for this. We're all busy, I get that. It's also part of the reason I'm posting at 2:45 PM EST. I have the time most of the day, not just evenings, or weekends, and I hope you do as well.

I've also been clear about a number of items 👆.

Beyond that?

Be a conversationalist. Want to share, to engage. You don't have to write "War and Peace" every time, but one-word answers don't resonate with me.

Be near NYC. I'm open to farther distances, but I want someone I can meet, to engage with in real life and enjoy the pleasure of their company with. I travel a bit, and am happy to see where I can stretch that. Please be realistic about it though.

Have great OPSEC. Telegram only. Be willing to share pictures early so that we know whom we're talking to.

Beyond that, I wish you well in your search, even if I'm not what you're looking for.