Recently I have seen a couple posts in the affairs subreddit similar to what I am posting for but unfortunately the other person was too far from my area for it to work. Most posts seek an AP who has a lot of time to devote. I know I don’t have that kind of time and I won’t pretend otherwise only to end up wasting someone’s time and playing with their emotions.

Read on If you are someone without a lot of extra time but just enough to meet up for short spurts of passion to fill a void in your life. Although my bedroom is dead this isn’t a post looking to immediately fulfill the lack of sex in my life. It would nice to organically get to that point in due time though.

After we get through the online stuff we could go for a short walk or we could sit outside somewhere not too busy to chat and see how we interact in person. The short spurts of passion which I seek are kissing and touching. Something to ease some tension and send us back home smiling inside and looking forward to the next time. I also want to be able to talk in person about our interests etc and what’s going on in our lives but I don’t want it to be only about bashing our SO. Constructive advice about our SO is always welcome but shouldn’t be the focus of our conversations. I want the time we spend to leave us energized mentally and physically to an extent.

Ideally our get togethers will be in the range of 30-45 minutes when our schedules align and on a weekly basis or at least twice a month. Close proximity to each other will obviously increase the chance of more frequent and potentially longer get togethers. I am definitely up for very quick meetups too if one of us suddenly has some extra time and the other can accommodate. If we decide we want a longer get together then it would take some planning. It’s a plus if you have morning availability. I definitely have time for texting and phone calls too when safe to take but of course not using our regular numbers. We can discuss OPSEC more in chat.  

A little about me:

-in a LTR of nearly 20 years and no longer in love with that person but can't easily exit the relationship in the near future. I do care about her and it’s a bit complicated. I can explain more in a chat.

• enjoy getting out in nature in different ways be it a casual walk, hiking, kayaking camping (can be a cabin too) sitting on the beach, bird watching and doing yard work. I also like day trips to the more rural parts of New England.

• love listening to various genres of music. My collection has some of your typical pop and rock but has a lot of eclectic artists that I would love to share with another music lover. If you like eclectic and experimental sounds too then we should listen to some of each others albums.

• I am easygoing and have a generally positive outlook on life I am in decent physical shape but don’t go the gym. I have a healthy and sometimes off beat sense of humor.

• I don't have kids (it’s ok if you do) but I do have caretaking responsibilities at home which I can elaborate on in a chat. That is the main reason my time is limited.

   I know this next sentence is not common in these affairs posts but YES I do want to change my situation BUT I am definitely NOT going to risk upending your relationship and life and i expect the same discretion from you.  I feel we aren’t on here thinking we will meet the next love of our lives but of course that would be awesome if we did.  I am ok with us catching feelings but we should both go into this in agreement that our current lives have to take priority. 

Thanks for reading all the boring stuff.  Hopefully we click and can share some fun times together.