I was going to use a time travel pick up line, but you didn’t like it.

But you did really enjoy our time together.

I know there are a million posts to wade through and maybe you will find mine and send a note.

I’m looking for an attached woman close to my age with whom my words might resonate. I’m looking for a friend. Someone who, like me, has a full life and is happy overall. But finds mid life hard, sometimes for reasons unexplainable. We love our partners and can’t imagine a future without them. But we miss affection, attention, and an eager ear to share everything.

I posted here because I’m looking for more than online , but not looking for something that is sex driven. Yes, I crave intimacy but the more romantic, affectionate, “loving” kind. I want the genuine care for each other. We even care for and respect the love we have for our respective partners. Slow dance after a candlelight dinner we made together? A private picnic by a secluded lake where we can’t stop smiling each other or stealing kisses? A coffee date where we share our dreams and fears, and what we did last week, while our legs brush together and our hearts feel full with gratitude? Cuddling on the couch, or hugging in the car, the oxytocin streaming through our veins. I want the friend with pillow talk. With heads resting on the same pillow, glowing from pleasurable fun, talking about anything and everything. A romantic friend who won’t fall in love but will care about me as a person nonetheless.

My situation makes it possible for me to host at times. I would love to meet someone nearby but also open to a little travel but know that this will make it a little harder. But a healthy distance might make it ok, and our meetings a bit sweeter.

I’m a father of 3 kids who love my partner. I risk their happiness and mine , so I take discretion extremely seriously. Nobody gets hurt and I promise you the same in return for my trust in you.

I’m educated and intellectual, craving more stimulation in this regard. I’m playful, flirty and curious. I have a great sense of humor and my friends know me as one of the funniest guys in the room, even if it is a subtle witty humor. I love to cook, travel, exercise, and discover new places. I am a coffee snob and lover of ethnic cuisines.

Say hi please. A note to me does not mean anything more than that. Tell me about your weekend and something you are looking forward to. There’s also a good chance that the woman I’m looking for is new to this, looking for a nice guy to dip her toes in with. Experienced in affairs is ok too, but someone who is extremely cautious (unsure , even) is interesting to me.