First, thank you for taking the time to read. I'm an early 40s, married man, who's navigating the challenges of a life that does not fit the narrative I was looking for. But due to circumstances I can't change things up.

So a little about me;

You can find me working from home and juggling the joys and challenges that come with it. I'm always up to chat or text during the workday and in my free time. I enjoy some personal things between photography and some programming tasks I do. (yes I'm the IT guy)

I understand the unique challenges and joys that come with this, as I have had an AP in the past and had a wonderful connection. We still chat, however she moved away for a career opportunity. I am looking for someone who understands the balancing act of an AP and marriage. I believe this is critical with an AP! I'm looking for a long-term connection with someone who values intimacy and emotional closeness, but also who respects and supports my boundaries. While I'm not looking to change my current situation, I'm open to building a meaningful and fulfilling relationship with the right person. Obviously sexual compatibility is critical, but so is compatibility period. If we can't hold a conversation or flirt with each other regularly, then I don't see it working for either of us.

Please don't play games with me and I won’t play games with you. If you’re not interested after we talk a bit don’t just ghost me, tell me. I’m a big boy I know I’m not everyone's cup of tea, and that’s great but hey let's be adults about it.

Trying something new with this let's exchange some pics early on in the conversation, once again let's not play games.

What you all want to know:

1 Yes I have a beard, no I’m not getting rid of it.

2 I have a few extra pounds around the midsection (6' 235)

3 I have Dark hair and eyes.

4 No I won’t put a photo here, but I will gladly send one or do a video call with you.

5 When it comes to sexual kinks etc., let’s keep that between us. However I would like to find someone that I can explore lots of fun things with. I am part of the D/S community and I take respect and consent to a level that most don’t understand.

6 I would like to someone within a few hours of Collegeville/king of Prussia/Pottstown PA. The closer the better. But a connection is key and we can work on the rest.

If you have any questions, would like to explore or chat, send me a message let’s chat!