Hi I’m a professional working from home and I live in Brooklyn. I’m looking for a long term FWB. My husband knows I am unhappy and why (he is manipulative and controlling) and that I plan on divorcing him at some point. I am currently not having sex with my husband; we live together with kids but no sex.

I am a very family focused and loving. I masturbate a lot but no one knows how much I need a FWB and if you asked others whether I’m the type to cheat no one would believe it because I am a very warm, moral, and generally a risk averse person who uses my brain more than my emotions to make decisions (save for the subject matter of this post). As far as divorce not happening right now, the kids are the complicating factor.

However, my husband doesn’t know that I’m on Reddit looking to get to know a man with whom I crave mind blowing sex and whose clothing I cannot wait to remove when he is near. I do not want my husband to find out about this and I have a pretty good way of avoiding detection.

To that point, I am very lonely for an emotional and physical connection. I am looking for someone that really wants me in all ways possible in terms of what I have to offer including sex but sans manipulation and sarcasm. I want to be able to talk to a man where we both take our masks off and enjoy spending time together and where we can be honest with one another both in and out of the proverbial bedroom.

I am capable of loving the entire essence of the right man (mind, body, soul) with the emphasis on the body, should the man allow me to. This is probably because I enjoy sex and am naturally sensual the way that other people naturally enjoy food or hard drugs/drinking, both of which I’m not into. So if you are the type of man who wants sex to be a full on total person satisfying experience, keep reading! If you are used to a 10 minute thing or even a longer non-sensual thing then please do us both a favor and skip my post.

I am attracted to men who are fairly hairless (torso/back), are thin or toned and have a high libido that matches mine (can go multiple times in a row without getting tired, and can stay hard for extended periods of time). Because of this, I prefer men in their 30’s.

I also like men who know what they want and can let me know so I can turn them on because I really really get off when you get off.

I seek a BWC (length is not as important as girth) but you need NOT send me a photo of yours, I can yummy it up when/if the time comes. Height is not a dealbreaker but I prefer men who are close to my height (I am 5’4”, so 5’5” through about 5’7”). Also prefer Spanish/caucasian men who are born and raised in the US (due to the ability to bond via shared language/culture) who are sexy (facial features/voice/expressiveness/intelligence/clandestine banter/confidence) and who enjoy a woman to dress up in sexy lingerie/slutty clothing so that they can uncover her yummy feminine places and pound her so hard until she goes into orbit as if on a rocket.

I am 44 y/o, have dirty blonde hair, soft smooth pale white skin, big brown eyes, big C/small D boobs and hips/butt (38-28-37) but slender/boney and nicely toned. I am not a model but I work out and have legs with a gap in between when standing straight with my feet closed. I am usually a size 4 or 6 or small, with more or less all hair from my body removed or nonexistent. I have been told that I have a sexy or attractive face/features. For context, when I was younger, a man in a European airport followed me around telling me that I looked like a very young beautiful actress lol whose name I’ll disclose if we meet. I’m not young anymore so that probably doesn’t apply but just to get an idea. I dress in a provocative but professional way (think sexy glamour). I am absurdly clean so I expect personal hygiene to be a top priority and behavior for any man who replies.

The caveat re: my appearance is that I have given birth and my waist to hip ratio is not what it once was due to the lack of elasticity of the abdominal skin and due to lower abdominal diastasis recti. Think of the diastasis recti as a separation in the abdominal muscle that for me manifests as a slight bump in the lower abdomen. Someone might say it is cute lol. So bottom line, although it probably is fine for a man replying here for a FWB/lover, I am a bit of a perfectionist re: my health and will eventually have a surgical procedure so that my body is in exceedingly top form. Meanwhile, I am dealing with this in non surgical ways thanks to Reddit.

Notwithstanding my profile name, this post is not an invitation to engage in texting banter because in the past 2 months of trying to find a FWB I have been ghosted by the 3 guys that I reached out to and was interested in; where the ghosting happened right before we were about to meet.

The last guy who ghosted me seemed so sincere, vulnerable, empathetic, intelligent, and wonderful (in addition to being super hot even though he hinted that he thought I was above his league), that I am still absolutely devastated and wish he could get foot warmers or put on some warm socks. He completely crushed me because we got intensely close via texting and it sounded like we were totally on the same page with so many things. Having said that, this is why I’m not sharing intimate information and sexting prior to meeting. That is also why I am posting this. I believe that some Redditors are just looking to see who will reply to them and are not really interested in actually meeting a prospective lover.

So, to reiterate and most importantly, if you are not serious about meeting but instead you wish to mess with someone’s head and love bomb and/or ghost, then I AM NOT your person. If you are not going to meet me or will be frightened to discover that I am what you think is above your “league” (which I really think is absurd because physical attraction is an organic thing) I ask you to please stay away, even if you check all the boxes set forth above. So basically I want to actually meet a guy that fits all of the above criteria. DO NOT REPLY to me unless you are ready to actually meet me in say like a week. I do not want to waste your time or my time and that is why this post is so detailed.

So if you and I think we are a match physically, the next immediate step would be to verify via telegram or Snapchat with either a short phone call or photos and then meet in a public space to make sure we are not serial killers and to make sure there is physical/mental/emotional chemistry.

If the above sounds like a match, please reply with a message that shows you read my very lengthy post and attach a photo (with your exposed chest if possible) and your disease and drug status (where relevant, last time you were tested).

Thanks for reading (sorry so long) and good luck/ no worries if I’m not your type or if what I am looking for doesn’t represent you.