I never thought I'd be here, but here I am. I guess that's pretty typical.
Not to blow my own horn, but... I'm a pretty great guy. lol I'm normal and sane. I'm kind and polite. I'm well-loved and well-liked. I'm educated and have a great career. I'm good with conversation and often told I'm funny. I've been accused of being handsome, and I've always had great relationships with my significant others.
I married THE most wonderful and amazing woman, and we've been enjoying our great relationship. We moved out of the city to the suburbs, started our family, and have been living that life of supporting each other and raising our kids. All the typical stuff: school events, family gatherings, trips and outings, youth sports, special occasions... Ya know, family life. I really have a great life that I genuinely appreciate and I am very protective of it.
So, why am I here? I have a dead bedroom. Is that the typical reason that otherwise happy husbands find themselves here?
I love my wife. She has been, is, and I foresee will continue to be amazing. But our sex life has slowly waned down to nothing. It just isn't happening anymore. I can't blame her. I have nothing bad to say about her. I have to blame the both of us. She doesn't seem interested in me sexually, and I have to admit that my sexual interest in her has diminished greatly. We are pretty vibrant in all other areas of our life, but our bed is just for sleeping, now.
I have dipped out here and there and met people that turned into one-night-stands, but I don't want to be that guy. I don't want to be the guy who is "on the hunt" whenever my urges rise to the level of being distracting.
What am I looking for? Ideally, the woman-equivalent of myself. You're someone who I could see myself dating if our circumstances were different. We enjoy each other's company and conversation, and we provide an escape for each other to fill that one void in our lives. We live our passions and steal away a few hours at a time with the understanding that we're both happily returning to our almost perfect marriages and family lives. We'll communicate discreetly, putting smiles on each other's faces until we can see each other again. In short, we'll make each other happy in the way our spouses aren't, and we'll keep it at that.
Oddly enough, I seem to be that guy in the neighborhood that wives and moms put "feelers" out for. I think I have a fair grasp on reality, and there have been a few occasions where I definitely got the impression that a neighbor was opening the door for a possible affair, but I would never do anything like that close to home. I'd never get involved with someone who knows my wife. That just seems way too messy and potentially volatile.
I'm 54 years old. Six feet tall. I'm built like a man who was an athlete when he was younger, and has slowly tapered down his activity as he's gotten older. I still play ball at least once a week, but I think "dad bod" may accurately describe me now. Age isn't a factor in this for me. I'm not looking to chase young girls, or entertain young women who are looking to give me attention for compensation. I enjoy the perspective and conversation of a mature woman.
I'm African American. Race and nationality are no concern to me. I've been called a silver fox, but I think I'm more salt and pepper. Sometimes I have a full, but short, beard. Sometimes I shave down to a goatee. I happy to share pics with women who are generally looking and not just pic collecting and hiding behind anonymity. I'm fine with taking the time to chat, maybe meet n greet, and disclose/discern to make sure we're the right match for each other. While this is primarily a treat for the senses, I'm hoping it's a connection that we can enjoy for a good long while, and we'll be good for each other. This may not need to be said, but just in case, I'm hetero. I'm not curious in any way. I'm only interested in meeting a lovely woman.
I'm located in Valencia, where Six Flags Magic Mountain is. I frequent the San Fernando Valley and Los Angeles. I'm fine with making a reasonable drive. We should be geographically desirable for each other so distance isn't an additional obstacle for us to deal with.
Again, I don't know if I'm typical, or atypical, but if there is a sub for this, I figure there are plenty of people out there looking, whatever their reasons are. I have mine. You have yours. No judgments. All I really ask is that you understand that I'm not looking to change my relationship status, and you'd never do anything to threaten that.
I look forward to chatting with someone great, and exploring the possibilities.
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