I think we're all here on the Affairs subreddit for the same reason.

Whether it be because of obligations to our children, financial circumstance, or just that sense of duty to your SO -we won't for the life of us bring up the word "Divorce" in our conversations with our spouses. And because of our decision to stay in our current situation we're no longer happy in our lives. We're on this subreddit because we want to feel happiness again. We want to feel joy, love, and satisfaction in our lives again.... so here we all are.

About me: I am Chinese-American, 33 years-old, and I have been married for 5 years. My husband and I have two children together. I am a nurse and I love my job. Work keeps me busy as well as the kids but when I do have spare time I enjoy running, and recently I started on a baking binge. In terms of my physical stats, I have straight black hair that goes past my shoulders and brown eyes. I am 5'3, slim (but if you must know 110-115 lbs depending on that time of the month), my dress size is a size zero, and my shoe size is 6.5-7 (depending on the brand).

Why am I here: While my husband is also career-driven he has shifted his focus to work entirely. Everything at home with the kids has become my responsibility and I feel left on the sidelines. There is no more "us time" because he brings work home and am I not going to stop him from pursuing his goals because that would make me feel like I'm the bad person here. Sometimes I feel that he loves work more than he loves me. There's also the issue of his health which has been affecting our intimacy. Let's just say it's been 2 years since the bedroom doors were closed.

Who am I looking for: Someone who is also career-driven and also in the same marital slump who is missing out on the same excitement from what a romantic relationship used to bring. Yes I would still like someone who is career-driven. Why? Because I can't be your main focus in life. You should be someone who understands that each of us have our own obligations to our work and family and you should know that our affair is just the spoonful of sugar that makes the medicine go down. I am looking for someone like me who misses living life. Someone who cares that I put on a dress for him to go out to dinner. Someone with whom I can feel warm and cozy when he has his arms around me. Someone who yearns throughout the day for my text message or phone call. Someone who brings excitement into my life and keeps me hot and bothered.

Your stats: Preferrably White, at least 35 years-old and with children. Tall guys to the front, guys with abs get bonus points. Please be sane, drug and drama-free, and healthy. You must be willing to provide an STI test and I will of course do the same so that both of us are safe.

Please be willing to provide a picture of who you are. I'm not sure how many people will be replying but if I feel that we're a match and we hit it off well enough after some time, we can have a Zoom call for verification before we meet in person.

If any of this peaks your interest, let me know why you think we would be a good match.

Thank you for reading and good luck with finding your Someone!