I’ve always wondered why women’s posts are longer and more readable than men’s on this subreddit. Maybe it says something about what each gender wants out of a relationship. Mine is not a whole lot different than what most men want, but I’m going to make it long and wordy, just to show how loquacious I am 😜.

I’m chronologically what you would consider middle-aged, but in terms of desire more like in my 30s. I consider myself an intellectual, well-read, moderate, and rational for the most part. Except for this post, which probably is the most irrational act I’ve done in 20 years.

I’m sure many of you wonder, as do I, what happened to that love that resulted in marriage? The embers of my marriage are dying (if not dead already) and the passion is long gone. She has found another soulmate, and after several months of moping around, I have decided to move on as well, albeit keeping the “relationship” alive for sake of the children, because it’s not their fault that the adults cannot reconcile.

So what am I looking for? I don’t know for sure. We sleep in different rooms and the loneliness at night is depressing. Definitely someone to talk to or chat with late in the night would help. Maybe it could develop into something more passionate, who knows but I can fantasize, right?

I have eclectic tastes - books (just finished Trust by Hernan Diaz, ironically), music, movies and documentaries, sports of most kind (except golf on TV), good food and fine alcohol. I work out to keep myself fit but not to build a 6 pack. I’m 5’8”, 160 lb - if those details matter.

I am looking for a woman who is looking for more outside the confines of her marriage, whatever that word means. I am not looking to change my situation and don’t expect you to do the same.

So, if you liked what you read thus far, send me a DM and we can see where things go from there.

The other thing I’ve noticed on this SR - women’s posts get a lot of comments but men’s don’t. So ladies, feel free to leave a comment or upvote so that at least my (frail) ego gets a boost.