Hiii! Hope my formatting is helpful because I'm big on organization :)

Quick bio:

Fit, cute (so I'm told, not just by my mom), nerdy, vegan (PETA ruins it for us), and dark-humor loving man currently in a secure, loving, and supportive ltr of 6 years. Ddf, will request test results and will provide my own should things get that far! We're newish to Oregon, but not from California so don't judge us lol. I'm an outdoorsy home-body with many interests and passions. Early bird and able to chat frequently while meetings need some planning, but I will make time for you. Seeking a safe, intentional, and open-minded friend with benefits situation in which we uplift and help each other live more fulfilling lives! I'm not in any rush, because I'm looking for quality over quantity. Are you looking for emotional connection, a giving partner, and kinky fun?! Perfect, please continue below :)

Long bio:

I'm someone who cares deeply for others and wants nothing more in life to make things better for those around me. Those values have guided me and I still hold them to this day. That said, I'm now realizing in my mid 30s that I have been neglecting my own needs and desires. This past year has been a whirlwind for me... I'm finally working on my mental and physical health after moving out to the PNW a couple years ago with my s/o. I was diagnosed with ADHD (hence the dopamine reference in my title) and have been completely sober for almost a year after quitting alcohol 4 years ago.

Now I'm here seeking connection because while I've never been in a better place... Intimacy at home has been inconsistent at best throughout our relationship, which I take responsibility for a well. More recently, in the last two years, the physical aspect of us has gone especially quiet. I won't go into too many details here, but our bedroom completely died when my partner unearthed childhood trauma that has, understandibly, shaken her confidence and interest around intimacy, sex, and kinks that we used to explore. I love her, support her, and when necessary I give her space to process her past. I have the time and effort to put her as my priority while sharing myself with someone who also has unmet needs.

What I'm looking for:

I'm no stranger to online relationships, but I'm wanting to find someone who is available and willing to meet regularly if we find a spark. I'm very capable of compartmentalizing, so I really want to get to know you! Let's share our interests, thoughts, passions, and desires in life. I want to make you feel confident, sexy, and shower you with the praise you deserve! All of this within reason of course as safety is always top priority! Opsec is solid on my end, so please have a plan in place.

Ideally we can chat often beyond single texts once a day. I think having an ongoing conversation leads to better flirting and better play time. I love to compliment, send pics, voice messages, and just be our true selves without judgement. I will put my best foot forward, but I'm not looking for perfection, so just be you!

Physically I'm attracted to many types, but I do enjoy working out and being out in nature, so I'd appreciate it if you're fairly fit and sexual stamina is a big plus!!

Sex and kinks:

Please be somewhat open to exploration of kinks and fetishes. I'm not into super extreme things but I'd love to spice things up once we get more comfortable and trusting of each other. Maybe we can even check out the sex clubs in Portland?? I deefffinitely have a very strong oral fixation and love to please! I'm a dominant-leaning switch and love the interplay of power dynamics should you also be into that sort of thing. I do post nsfw content on this account as a sexual outlet... Just wanting to warn you if you do browse my timeline ;)

If you made it through all of that. Sincerely, thank you for taking the time. I know a lot of this was very dry, but I'm actually pretty easy going and fun. I want you to know I'm taking this seriously by being open, direct, and thorough! I'll happily share a video and audio clip to verify my identity on telegram or snap so that would be the next step if we vibe after chatting a little here...

Please tell me your age, a little bit about why you're here, and/or what resonated with you from my post! I'm excited to get to know you and see where it goes :)