So I turned 60 earlier this month.
I was stoked when I hit 50 -- allowed myself to get a tattoo... decided to not care so much about what people thought of me (mind you, I didn't turn obnoxious, but I stopped worrying about what people thought)... decided to get in even better shape.
60 hit me a bit hard. Maybe it's because the "senior discount" at Denny's kicks in.
That said, I look mid-40s. Feel, eh, late 40s/early 50s. I still surf, occasionally skateboard, paddleboard, love to write and absolutely love to cook. If you go to my feed, I think the top posts are still all under r/ FoodPorn and not r/ MenOver60withModestEndowments, though that's an awfully small sub and you'll have a 10% chance of picking me out from the crowd. I love to cook for people: my family and friends, not huge crowds. This morning and after 36 hours, I finished a batch of croissants in time for the Formula 1 race in Monaco. Yes, I like Formula 1. Otherwise, I'm not into motorsports. I love to walk in cities. And give me an ocean any day. (Currently reading "Blue Mind." I recommend it.)
What I'm looking for:

• Someone who's willing to share a photo in the first 5-10 DMs.
• Education/intelligence/wit/humility. This is a rare combo, but if you find yourself so endowed, then go to the head of the line.
• Age: 40 please.
• A flirt. But not "dirty." If we were to ever meet in person -- which I'd like to keep open as a possibility -- mindless and explicit sexting beforehand I think would ruin some of the magic. That said, good flirtatious banter is great. If you have text "game," bring it.
• Someone who's had an affair before. This is non-negotiable.
• A non-smoker. Again, if we were to meet at some point, I'd like to know that you're not suffering from going cold turkey from your two-pack-a-day habit. Smoking/vaping/weed is not my thing. I don't drink, but social drinking is totally cool. You generally take care of yourself: you exercise, you eat with care but not militancy, you don't feel bad about a few extra pounds. (I.e. you're comfortable in your skin.)
• Availability. I'm self-employed and while I work a lot, I have total flexibility. I can also travel. My weekends are harder than week days, but do-able for conversations. I'd hope you'd be similar.
• A mother. (Don't say it, commenters! :)) Don't say, "he's looking for a mommy figure.") I'm looking for someone with kids, because I am attracted to a woman who has made that kind of sacrifice and has that kind of selfless love. I have grown children and am so proud of them.
• Someone who believes that I can actually be ok with online and won't push for sex until or unless we met and wanted it. My last AP was long-distance. We saw each other twice in five months; the fist time was after 7 weeks, and yet those 7 weeks online only were wonderful. Meeting? Yes, great. But just to know her. It was wonderful.

To know you. That's what I want.

Would love to hear from you.