It’s a mega pain in the ass, just then if my reflexes were half bad he would’ve walked in on me having fun with myself. He didn’t even knock, and even if he did knock he would do it after he opened the door. His excuse is always “I have to make sure you’re safe” like what the fuck dude literally nothing is happening and I have in no way acted concerning. He was gonna come in too yesterday after dinner because he thought I was taking a shit for too long and “what if you passed out”. He had casually strolled in a few times when I’m in the bathroom too before. I would just lock the door but last time I did that a few years ago he stuck the key into the lock with glue.

I would argue with him but I just couldn’t find the words for it because his reasoning is absolutely fucking absurd.

Also I have zero health issues and I’m 15.

ETA: I’ve told him about wanting privacy multiple times before, and I’ve fought very hard a few years ago to get both my parents to start knocking before they come in — it worked for a while but lately he stopped doing that most of the time. No issues with my mom tho since she’s out of country.

Some people are concerned so just to clarify, I’m pretty certain he doesn’t view me inappropriately. I don’t know how to explain it but, there’s that.

Also, I don’t think he suspects I’m up to anything? I mean every time he comes in I demand a reason and it’s always been “I wanted to make sure you’re safe” followed by some explanation. This time it was “there was a loud bang 30 minutes ago and I had to know it wasn’t anything to do with you”. Last time it was “you were in the bathroom for very long I thought you had diarrhea”. I told him if I need help I would call him or 911 on my phone, but he got really mad and said “if you passed out you wouldn’t be calling anyone”.

Sorry for the crass language I was super frustrated ;_;

Thanks for all the advice! I will be having another conversation with him about this at dinner.

Also I’m a girl so I don’t really feel comfortable with the continue doing whatever I’m doing thing. Thanks anyway though they’re hilarious.

Update:

I didn’t expect this many comments, I won’t be able to reply to all of them but thank you to everyone for your support.

I got a one of those plastic door stoppers, but didn’t get a chance to talk to him until yesterday, when I brought up the topic after asking if he went in my room while I was out (I could tell because he emptied my bin…). I was clear about what I wanted: 1. for him to respect my private space, 2. not barge in the bathroom, 3. to knock and wait before coming into my bedroom, and 4. to send a text first if I don’t respond immediately, all in a calm tone. He didn’t really acknowledge that though, kept bringing the matter back to me being messy so he has to empty my bins for me. I mean I don’t have that much of a problem with that, it’s his house, sure take my trash if he wants to (it was only half full but ok), and I told him thank you for doing me a favor but that’s not the problem I’m trying to talk about.

I had to reiterate my claim a few more times before he finally responded to it by saying he does knock before coming in, and I had to remind him that he literally barged in without warning a few hours ago, to which he replied he thought I was asleep or unconscious and if he knocked I wouldn’t hear, I said that isn’t an excuse at all, and after that he stopped responding and dismissed the convo (“alright alright stop talking about it”) and went outside to smoke.

Anyway that was my go at settling things relatively calmly, not really working though because he still tries to walk in. He does knock now, because the door stopper blocks his first attempt at pushing the door straight open. Eh. I guess it’s an improvement? Anyway dunno if I’ll be updating this anymore, the wedge works for now and I’m too tired about this to do anything else.