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EDIT: I didn't come up with the term "legal kidnapping" I got it from here. I'm not trying to sensationalize. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Teen_escort_company
I have a history of mental issues and school avoidance. I'm currently in a DBT program. On multiple occasions, my parents leaving email exchanges open was how I found out about big changes, ie. that they were in correspondence with a therapeutic boarding school. I've always been open with them, asking what the emails were about. Recently I saw they were in touch with "Assisted Interventions Inc" in which they stated they "may be needing your services in a few days." A quick google search revealed that it's a teen "transport" agency. I HAD NO KNOWLEDGE OF THIS. I'm panicking. I have heard so many stories of legal kidnapping and the troubled teen industry resulting in abuse and trauma. What do I do?
EDIT: they arenāt sending me to a residential. Itās wilderness therapy. āwilderness therapyā isnāt some grass touching vacation. and Iām not online often. And āschool avoidanceā isnāt truancy. Iām scared to go to school and have panic attacks. Maybe you donāt believe me. I still get my work done in addition to going to therapy
EDIT AGAIN: I know my parents donāt have bad intentions. I know they want to help. But I donāt need forceful help. Iām getting help in DBT. Iām a shy kid and I donāt have friends. School is hard and there are setbacks. But I donāt act out. Even if I did, forceful transportation is not the answer. Iām scared. And Iām not being exaggerative, itās just literally called legal kidnapping. I donāt need people to tell me I need help. I donāt need people to tell me I need therapy. I need to know what to do
ANOTHER EDIT: People seem to think I put off school completely. I have had a good few years of consistent attendance and only very recently have had a setback. I have good grades. Iām not an addict and I donāt act out. I love my parents. Iām not ātoo far goneā and Iām not an immobile vegetable.
Here is a META analysis talking about the benefits. I don't see your link. Is it an official study, or a reporter or blogger giving their opinion?
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8188531/
The conlusion is
DBT-A appears to be a valuable treatment in reducing both adolescent self-harm and suicidal ideation.
I don't have anything to do with this program. I work in a level 1 psych hospital where we treat teenagers that have just tried/want to kill themselves or someone else. The wilderness programs are a stepdown from us that we almost never get to utilize because insurance won't pay for them, and they cost about $20-50k for the week. Not that many parent willing or able to shell out that kinda cash.
You are talking about yourself. Thats awesome that you are super involved parent with the ability to do that. Do you understand most (though not all) of these kids come from super messed up homes?
But even great home enviroments can have children with extreme psych issues. It sounds like you are blaming everything on the family. Thats often not the case (though it often is)
But you still havent offered a solution for what to do with all these children. Once again, telling other people how to parent is just a theory, and nothing that is actaully going to help the kid with 20 sutures on his forearm he just sliced open last week.
So do you have any now solutions, or would you just like to pontificate some more?
Yep, there's lots of problems.
Are you offering a better alternative? Or are you more in the "I have no solutions, but I don't like yours" camp?
We have a lot of parents with children that have been assualted/cut/smothered by their siblings. A lot of kids that are going to be permanetly scarred from self harming. Lots of failed suicide attempts.
Where would you have these kids go? Not in theory of what would make a better world, but an actual place to send a kid who just tried to kill himself or someone else. Would prison be better? Would grandparents work better? Please tell. The system is broken, but I don't see a better solution.
I am a nurse and I work in behavioral health. These types of wilderness programs are hugely expensive, and often quite successful for teens who have not found help in other programs. May I ask why you are resistant to trying the program?
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Downvote all you want. But you don't seem to understand that this child's family recognizes their child needs help. You are offering the child no solutions (telling them their parents need to do better is NOT going to help them) and you are telling them that the solutions available to them won't work. If this kid refuses to buy into the program, and has no other options, will you feel remotely responsible?
If you hate the treatment options, tell the kid something useful. Don't scorn the treatment then offer no solutions. The child needs help.