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I (23M) was friends with a girl (19F) that was in a toxic relationship when I met her, we became very close, had deep conversations and were good. We talked about everything and I got her out of that hard place she was in. 6 months later she broke up with and kicked out the toxic/ abusive boyfriend. We began hanging out all the time after this, we never really went on dates but weâd hangout. I did really like her, at the time more than she liked me. I started to fall for this girl and she was falling for me. She wanted me to date her already and wanted me to move in/start a family/marry her. We would hangout 4-5 days a week for about a month and she took me to her parents house and we hungout there a few times. Her family liked me and they were cool. As time went on I got to the point where I didnât want to hangout everyday because I enjoy my free time, have work, have schoolâŚetc. She started to get upset and mad over me doing what I wanted and called it a âwaste of timeâ if I wasnât with her or I just wanted to relax because I work and study all the time. I would tell her I was busy doing my own things and she would keep getting mad and question if I actually liked her. We hungout a few more times over the next few weeks, then I stopped hanging out with her because I had an important test I needed to study for. She didnât get it, she said I was studying too hard, didnât spend time with her and all this stuff. We started having arguments everyday and it just got worse and worse. I told her I felt like I didnât have enough time in my life for her right now and that I didnât think Iâd be they guy that could make her happy. I was honest with her about it. We talked everyday over text but I started to really not feel it with her anymore. She asked me what are âlabelâ was because we didnât officially become a couple and I was hesitant. I told her that we were just going out and that I didnât think a label mattered yet because he really havenât been hanging out that long. She of course got upset with that and told me how she doesnât know why she let me in if I was gonna hurt her even though I was trying to date her at first. This went on for another week and she begged me to come over to talk. I finally did and we hungout, talked, and at the end of the night I told her I think we should just be friends. She started crying when I left. I told her that I think itâs the best thing right now and that we could potentially be something someday if things go that direction someday. She told me how she loved me and that Iâm breaking her heart and she wanted me to let her go. So I did and told her if she ever needed anything that Iâd be there for her because I did still like her as a friend and she said the same. The next day she wanted to be friends, wanted me to be her friend, hangout with her this weekend. I refused because I didnât want to and she went crazy. Saying how I was a bad person and that she shouldâve never slept with me and that she wish I never talked to her. Today I was at work and she sent me a text. She asked me what I was doing last night. I told her I was at my friends house and thatâs why I didnât answer. She asked me if it was a girl which it wasnât. She didnât believe me and started saying all the bad things she said before and tried to make me out to be a bad person. I told her itâs best if we donât talk to each other, we should go our separate ways because all we do is fight and that itâs toxic and annoying. Later this afternoon when I was at work she put up a Snapchat story saying âwhen heâs a 7, takes forever to do easy stuff, tell you he loves you and lies about it. Comes over to your house and tries to get in your pants and tells you to suck his dick HA -456â. The last time we hungout and I told her I wanted to be friends I never said that stuff to her, never tried getting in her pants and I jokingly said suck my dick. I think this is all crazy and I hate the fact that I even tried with her. She is terrible and I hate it. Itâs honestly one of the biggest regrets in my life. What should I do now? We stopped talking and I blocked her on everything besides Snapchat just so I can make sure she doesnât do anything else crazy. I need advice.
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