There is a lot to this story since this guy is my closest friend, but I’ll try and keep it brief. To start, my friend (H, 20M) is a serial cheater and has many issues in any relationship he ends up in. His longest relationship was 1.5 yes, ending when it was discovered he began cheating and tried denying it to everyone. I was once a sexual partner of his, though I haven’t been for a while now and have no attraction to him anymore. I have stuck with him through all his dumb decisions, but not without conflict and pleading for him to get help and do better. However, I recently talked to his most recent gf (only lasted a week or two) and it really hit me deep. My bf and I met with her to ask what had happened, and she said she woke up to him trying to do something sexual to her, obviously without her consent. I knew that a couple people had accused him of rape or assault, but considering that many of them were just as damaged as he was (and considering I was never raped or assaulted by him) I figured they were lashing out or being dramatic. Looking back, he was often pushy for things I wasn’t comfortable with, but I was very clear with my non-consent which he respected. But the thing is, he really is such a charming, sweet, sincere guy whenever we talk, and I really feel deep down that he’s a good person. But after him lying up and down just to hide his obvious problems, and now touching women in their sleep? I feel like I can’t look the other way. I really respect his (now ex) gf, she was one of my best friends in school. I sometimes wonder is he is a sociopath, charming but secretly greedy and selfish. Idk how to feel, because despite these terrible things I still feel compassion for him. Do you guys ever think it is okay to overlook these things?

TDLR: my best friend is a serial cheater and has rape allegations. His recent ex told me he touched her while she was sleeping, and I know she’d never lie. Can I still be his friend even when he lies and cheats constantly?