My bf(18) says he’s tired of being told that he has to change for me. He feels he shouldn’t change to make me happy. Is he right?

When I voice my opinions about him not paying attention, or not listening to my needs, he voices that “I do not want to be told what to do. I am who I am.”

EDIT: example of change: when im not feeling loved, i want him to give me a little more affection, which feels kind of forceful or when i ask him to stop being so silly during a conversation, i want him to change his demeanour.

I feel like there should be some sort of comprise. Of course I don’t what him to change for me, but again, I feel like i’m not getting what I want out of the relationship.

What should I do? what should i say to him?