I am currently struggling with my family always expecting me to bail them out of financial situations. I am not sure if this is normal as I am my mother's oldest child but I feel like I am being taken advantage of and no one wants to take responsibility for their financial irresponsibility. I say this because I have been handing over money to my mom since I got my first job in high school. My first check of $100, my mom made me pay the light bill. When I started my second job before college, I was forced to pay for car notes, bills, food, etc. During college, my mom would call me for $75, $50, $100 all the time. I had a hard time saying no although I was only making $150/week. Now that I have graduated and have a stable job, she is continuing to call me for money. I know it is the dream of many kids to help buy their family a home, a car, etc but I don't feel like that anymore. At one point I did, but now I feel like I am seen as a money bag for my mom. I have four younger siblings that she supports with her bf, which is why it was so hard to say no to her when it was about bills that would impact their ability to have lights on, wifi, cable, etc. She does work but for some reason, she never has enough to cover everything that she needs to. She also has a history of sending money to people who call her for help (even if she doesn't have it herself...so much so that my family has gotten evicted 2x from homes). I no longer live at home, so I feel like I shouldn't feel bad saying no, but I keep thinking about my siblings and wanting to not anger my mom (she is great at guilt tripping). What should I do? Is it normal for parents to rely so much on their oldest child?