Sorry in advance if this post is ill worded or not formatted correctly, i’m writing this on mobile.

So! My friend(22f) and I(23m) have been intermittently in each other’s lives since high school through an organization we participated in as children, and worked for when we were older. This job requires us to work and live onsite for three months out of the year, and in 2018, my friend had to resign and leave.. well, i’m actually unsure of how it all went down. If she got let go, or if she was just told to get healthy and apply the following year, or if she chose to leave. Like I said, i’m unsure and it’s never come up and she’s never told me it was an ongoing trauma. She has not returned to our job since that summer.

Fast forward to this last summer, Where I had gotten promoted to a leadership position. She seemed to be happy for me, and we chatted often about the shared commiserated experiences that we had in the years prior.. it helped me get through the summer. The summer ended, and I went back into quarantine, and we continually caught up and video chatted here or there. I’m also very close with her partner, and everything seemed normal for the longest time.

I guess I don’t even really know when they started ignoring me. Our boss, she got nominated for a local accomplishment, and I had noticed a tweet from my friend, stating something along the lines of “the person who ostracized me from a place i love got nominated for this thing” (not a direct quote, obviously).. and I liked it. I thought really nothing more of it. However, in the days coming, I did write a brief message of support in a facebook article that linked to the post about our boss’ accomplishment.

The thing is, my friend never told me that this upset her. She just cut me out of her life. I reached out continually to ask if we could catch up, and when I noticed she was purposely opening messages and not responding, I asked bluntly whether she was upset with me. Her partner then texts me and there was a few lengthy texts about how I was not respecting my friends’ boundaries, and how I was explicitly told not to speak to her, and it was my continued support of someone who inflicted trauma on her that was the problem.

i guess what i’m asking for is some clarity here.. this is probably pretty jumbled and hard to understand, but i want to keep some ambiguity as far as my friend and the company we work for.

I just feel as though it’s unjustified, and a bit childish, to just assumed i’d know what I had done was wrong.. and if the expectation is to quit working for a company i’ve had a completely different experience with... well, that seems like a pretty intense expectation as well. It’s been several weeks, she and her partner both haven’t reached out, yet they continually like my posts on social media. Not like i’m reading too much into that, but still.