This is my first year of college and I moved into an on campus apartment with 3 other roommates. We’ll call them Viv, Brien, and Ivy (fake names).

First semester starts and I tried to get to know my roommates. Ivy stayed in her room, i didn’t see her for the first month. Brien did the same. Viv and I became friends and agreed it was super awkward that Brien and Ivy didn’t talk to us.

For the first two months only Viv and I took out the kitchen trash. No one else did, so we stopped. The trash started to overflow and instead of taking it out my roommates would tie the bag and leave it by the door. Eventually 4 bags of trash formed by the door so Viv asked in our groupchat if we could each take one out. Brien said she didn’t use that trash and if we didn’t take it out then she would report us. Ivy said she “didn’t really” use that trash. Total lie. Viv went off on Ivy and it caused a lot of tension.

Second semester starts and Brien and Viv have moved out. We have a new roommate Nora. I try to talk to Nora and introduce myself, but she just goes into her room. I try to talk to Ivy and get to know her, but my efforts aren’t reciprocated. I decided to give up because apparently its a crime to be friends with your roommates.

In the first week, the trash got full, so I took it out. Two weeks later, the trash is overflowing. I decide to ignore it since its not my turn. Then my roommates start stacking trash on top of the trash can. When the top can’t be stacked anymore, they put their trash ON THE FLOOR next to the trash can. I was so grossed out i took the trash out and decided to stop using the kitchen trash entirely so I don’t feel obligated to take it out. I also took the trash bags and hid them since clearly my roommates aren’t capable of sharing a trashcan. They got more trash bags, which are too small for the trash can, and now theres food on the inside of the trash can just crusted there. Its disgusting.

The dish situation is also a mess. I always do my own dishes within a few hours of using them (we dont have a dishwasher). We have a drying rack and I always make sure my dishes aren’t in there for too long. My roommates have been leaving dishes in the sink for a week at a time. They also have gross food in them that hasn’t been rinsed. My roommate left pots and pans in the sink for several days, finally cleaned them, and now they’ve been taking up all the space in the drying rack for a week and a half. I could put them away, but the last time I did that Ivy accused me of stealing her bowl because I put it away in the wrong spot. Ivy also leaves a cookie sheet on the stove 24/7. She never washes it. It has chicken crumbs on it, and I’m vegetarian so that grosses me out. The stove also has chicken crumbs all over it. Someone decided to microwave something (spaghetti I assume) so now the microwave is covered in red sauce that no one has cleaned. Its so bad that anywhere there doesn’t have a red spot, the microwave is orange.

The one thing that bothers the most is that they constantly turn the AC off. Our thermostat doesn’t go below 74°, and we live in Arizona, where it’s usually 80°. It gets so hot in our apartment without the AC on. I work out in my room, and without the AC on I just feel way too hot. If they’re cold, I don’t get why they can’t put on a sweater or use a blanket. If you’re hot, there’s nothing you can do to cool off. Our rooms dont have ceiling fans. I bought a fan for my room but it still feels so hot to me. We’ve had days where they’ll have the AC off all day, and i turn it back on in the evening and someone immediately turns it off. Im so fed up with them. I have done their dishes, taken out their trash, and cleaned their messes, all while trying to be their friend when they couldn’t care less, and i cant have ONE thing i want. Even with the AC on it doesn’t get cold in my opinion.

Sorry for the long post I just wanted to include all the details.

My main question is, how can I solve problems with roommates who want nothing to do with me? Im shy and non-confrontational, but Im fed up with them.