Ok so im turning 21 years old in a week. I didnt get laid before for multiple reasons, the main reason is because i was focused on improving myself, gym, studies, work and personal work. in the past, i didn't care much since i was young and thought i had time, but now i am starting to become mad.

now before you judge me, just know that i am a highly disciplined individual. i listen and i learn. patience is one of my highest abilities. i am a computer science major. i was usually an extremely boring but nice person with nothing interesting to talk about especially with girls, unless its a common college topic and thats all.

because i am getting older each day, years are passing by, i am dynamically changing, college studies are getting me frustrated, this is getting me frustrated too and because of this i am becoming more "violent". violent in a sense that, i am deleting away the personality of me when i was nice to everyone. i am no longer taking shit from anybody, if something bothers me i say it. if a girl starts drama i stop it. if someone talks about something and i believe thats wasting my time, i just cut him/her off and go straight to the point. i am becoming more aggressive each day. you may call me a douche or an asshole, and that's okay too, because i no longer give a fuck about other peoples opinions.

i appreciate the truth no matter how hard it is and i do not forgive lies. advice is not an opinion and i am here for your advice. i need an honest advice. if am i doing something wrong, tell me so i can fix it.

i have done so many extremely difficult things (in work terms) and i cant believe getting laid would be THE most difficult, if not impossible, thing to do in my life.

what am i doing wrong and what do i need to change?