I just moved to a new city and I have friends in the area, but it's not like I'm seeing them as often as I used to when we were roommates in college. We also all have different work schedules, so I really only see my friends once a week (if that).

Me... I'm really not the most social person and It's very hard for me to make new friends. Mainly because I feel like I don't have much to say to contribute to conversation. Not to mention that conversing is a socially exhausting task for me.

For example, whenever I'm in a group of 3 people, I always feel that I'm not even in conversation, and that I'm just a third wheel. Talking for me is just plain hard.

I drink, but I'm not one to go out to bars on my own to meet new people. If I'm not at work or with friends, I'm most likely cooped up in my room. I've always liked my own company, but I feel that this is too much now. I need more social interaction in my life but it's difficult because being social isn't my strong suit.

This feels like a catch-22 to me because I want to get out there to be more social but making new friends is once again a challenge for me. I also want to go out and explore the nooks and crannies of this new city, but I have a general lack of people to do that with.

I'm coming up on 3 months of living here and I don't want to fall into an anti-social downward spiral.

Thoughts?