Hey everyone, I’m looking for advice on managing my reactions and handling situations where I feel like I’m being misunderstood or judged.

Here’s some context: I’m part of a friend group that includes my ex (I know, not ideal), and she’s pointed out that I take things too seriously and get upset too quickly over small things. For example, when we play games like Uno or Catan, if she makes a move that’s not in my favor, I sometimes act annoyed or spend the rest of the match trying to get back at her. I don’t even do it intentionally half the time, but apparently, it’s noticeable enough that it’s become something people associate with me.

On top of that, there are moments when she or others in the group make statements that don’t make much sense or crack bad jokes that not everyone would enjoy. If I don’t laugh or call it out as being silly or annoying, she’ll say things like, “You can’t joke with him,” or, “He doesn’t know how to take a joke.” It frustrates me because I feel like there’s a difference between taking a harmless joke and tolerating something dumb or inappropriate.

I know I probably shouldn’t let this stuff get under my skin, especially since she’s my ex, but I genuinely want to stop these patterns of reacting and avoid being seen as someone who takes everything personally. How can I manage my emotions better in the moment, let go of these habits, and find a balance between being easygoing and standing up for myself?

Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated!