It's a long story but basically I (37/F) live alone on a property of land occupied by other family including cousin A (30M). For 6 years he's been sending me increasingly sexual texts sporadically until NYE where things escalated and he spammed me with texts asking to hang out after our family NYE gathering at the property. He then went to my house and asked to come inside, told me he almost sent me a dick Pic, told me he he should've fucked a family friend that went to the gathering and then asked to keep this all between us. Luckily I was passed out and my phone died, so I saw this all the next morning. I finally told his mom yesterday. And it was a lot. There's a lot of factors because he lives basically next door, he's had suicidal thoughts before, he's isolating himself and he refuses to go to therapy. So it's going to be a huge change for our family out here, my aunt found out disturbing stuff her son has said and done along with worrying he'll commit suicide if he finds out she knows. It was a very heavy day between me, my aunt, my female cousin, my other male cousin and my uncle and discussing what to do and creating an intervention like plan.

Ultimately we still don't truly know how to handle this, I don't know how to handle this. I don't feel safe at home fully, I've had to be uncomfortable during family gathering so no one really knew what was going on, I gaslit myself for a couple years thinking I was wrong in assuming his intent, I can't even go outside and be fully comfortable because idk if he's going to walk by. Idk if he's going into my house when im not there. Idk what kind of therapy to seek or where to go.

I want to take some time off work (which is another shit show in itself, with management forcing a doctor out of her job because they don't like her but its illegal and HR didn't know they were asking her to resign), i just don't know if im justified. A part of me feels like sexual harassment isn't that a big of deal so im just bring selfish by taking time off work, that's its too dramatic. I don't know how to even process the situation am I reacting right?

Just need some guidance