I (19NB) met E (23M) on Tinder recently. We hit it off pretty well, although some of his mannerisms were off putting to me but it was just personal preference. I like giving people the benefit of the doubt and meeting them in person if they don’t give me murder vibes. We had talked about hooking up and getting even set boundaries if we were to get into a relationship. I’m not gonna say I wasn’t opposed to the idea but I wanted to take things low as it’s something I have personally struggled with in the past.

I travelled about 2 hours to his place (30 mins by drive) and it was kinda awkward at first. I’m near the poverty line and struggle to afford things and one of those things this year happened to be a coat. I’m in canada btw. So I offhandedly mentioned to him that I was cold over text and in person when he got me from the bus stop. He’s told me it was a skill issue and that left a bitter taste in my mouth.

So we did the dirty and I couldn’t help but think that my ex was much better than what we were doing and thats it’s own problem. After figuring that out I decided it’s time to head out and I leave. I texted him once I was home and explained to him my situation. Normally when I explain to a hook up that I’m not interested we go to just replying to insta stories or notes and just casual conversation. But he had other plans.

E would text me non stop and I wouldn’t reply as I lead a fairly active life. I was hoping to avoid another conversation with him but he wouldn’t stop asking why I wasn’t texting him. He kept whining about him doing something wrong. I explained to him that it has nothing to do with him and I’m just busy. He says cool and goes back to texting me. A lot. And I’d reply to him when I can but he would make me feel bad about taking so long. Saying “sorry for bothering you” to the point where one night I stated firmly that I don’t like being texted this much and he was looking for a full time commitment from me.

He apologized and gave me a doctors list of reasons as to why he was texting me so much. I told him it’s fine but I need space and I’m not the support that he’s looking for right now. He has since stopping texting me at all and I feel bad. Did I do something wrong in this situation? Feel free to lay it on me I’m genuinely curious.