Update I’m in AUSTRALIA, so I think our clubs are a little different to the US. And for those having a conniption over me saying ‘The Strippers’, that’s what lots of us call it over here. - He is riddled with guilt and feels absolutely horrible. I’m not overly sure how I can move on from the disrespect. I have supported him through a lot over 13 years so the lack of respect is a big deal for me. - He was so adamant that is was nothing more than dances, that he stood there, called the club and made the woman confirm what he got charged for. BUT he still went there despite knowing my feelings for it, which is fucked. - I do believe it was his first time doing cocaine because we have always been very transparent about drugs. And I do think it’s a massively shit thing for him to do. - And for those straight up commenting ‘divorce’ it’s not that easy in Aus. You MUST be legally separated for a minimum of 12 months before being able to apply for divorce. - As for dropping $3k it’s totally unacceptable, we have a young family and I have always made sure I’m using money responsibly, so no I’m not happy with this wannabe wolf of Wall Street episode my husband went through.

I (F30) have always expressed to him that I dislike him going to the strippers (I have nothing against women who strip but unfortunately I’m not a ‘cool’ wife who is ok with my husband going to them). He has always known how I feel about it.

I found out that when I dropped him off in town on his birthday to see friends, that he ended up doing cocaine for the first time. It’s weird of him but I didn’t find it that a big deal compared to the rest of the night.. I did get upset when I found out he went to the strippers. I asked him 3 times and he denied it, then finally admitted it.

Then the next day, he admitted to getting a ‘lap dance’ that his friend got him for his birthday. Then the next day I found out that he actually paid for him and his mate to have the dances and that he actually spent $3k while there for 4 hours. I text him a couple times during the night to check everything was ok but he obviously ignored me. I was at home with our three young kids.

I can’t help but feel like it was something more than a lap dance. I feel so sad and betrayed. I’m embarrassed. And as I’m naive about strip clubs, I don’t know what can actually happen there. Am I over reacting?