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Dealing with a Catty, Rude Boss?
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Note: I WFH for a successful business. My team consists of less than 10 people and we have very large workloads. We support one another and are tight-knit. And yes, I know my boss is not my friend.

When I first started working for my company, my boss was very supportive, fun and kind. But over the last year I have watched and been on the receiving end of her behavior. She can often be very passive aggressive, especially if you can't keep up with her when she is showing you had to do something in a software.

She will get mad if you ask too many questions, she will take what you have to say - even something like, "Whoops, I had a mistype there, I need to slow down for a second" and she said, "You cant be slow, you just need to do better".

She takes her stress out on us often and I have asked in the past if there is anything I can help with and take off her plate.

My boss has had two big promotions this year and we have three new team mates. My boss went from supportive and kind to..well...a complete bitch. She's just so snide, snippy and rude - and SO critical! We bust our asses because we love our jobs, company and team. But she never has anything nice to say anymore. She is incredibly critical and l have even cried after meetings with her.

One of my teammates confided in me that she felt like our boss hated her and I was so relieved because I feel the same! Like nothing I do is good enough. She gives us the cold shoulder constantly or speaks to us in clipped tones. My co-worker agrees that our boss has changed immensely since her last 2 promotions and she has worked with our boss for 7 years.

We are on a big business trip and she wouldn't even sit with our team. She has been giving us the cold shoulder for months and it was very stressful and hurtful during our trip. She hung out with upper management the most and someone mentioned, "We haven't gotten to spend much time with you" and she said, "I haven't been with ANYONE that much". So rudely. I also overheard her say to someone that she needed a mental health day and a couple months ago she told me that she was going on medication (she was very aggravated by this).

Idk what the fk to do. I LOVE my job, my team and my company. But I'm so stressed by my boss that I am covered in hives. I also have autoimmune which has affected me a lot this year (I was using a cane last trip) and if I am a little extra tired or otherwise seem not in tiptop shape, she will make a comment in almost a mocking tone. Like, I'm annoying her.

Even words of comfort would be much appreciated. I'm not going to lie: my feelings are really hurt by my boss's behavior. During a meeting once, she confided in me that HR told her to get herself under control during a different meeting because of how nasty she was being towards another manager.

😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨 I really need a hug after all this 😅

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