Hello everyone,

I hope some can give me an advice, because i dont know what to do actually.

I(male) have a friend (female) we know esxh other for more than 7 years.

Her situation: Shes living in belgium with her boyfriend and his family. Unfortunatly she couldnt regularise herself there, and the situation became worst each month. She cant work because small villager. Her boyfriend is blocking all her social avtivity even friend. His parent want her to left home. She cant help with the rent, but she help at home, she tried abd started to craft things and sell, but she dont reveice a lot and its the stsrt then its slow. A lot of fight, because when he s depressed or having a bad day she took all his anger. And when she saved money do give him a ring he said "okay".

I said to her for a long time this relationship is toxic, but she was blind love.. Actually things gone soo wrong she finally realised things and want to get out. She cant go to her mother because her mother dont accept her being into lgbt , and her grandmother it. Was her only. Path.

I proposed her to come here at my. Home to help her, but last month my. Situation changed.

My situation: Im actually considered handicaped by society, i receive a rent and some money to live. After long years i Finnally move to another home, and started to stabilise my. Life. Thats why i proposed her to come. I even started to make mead and having a idea of having my own business, to do something i like and to get out of my situation.

But last month 3 thing changed: 1. I will need to be discret because, the bareme to loose my rent its 1k, even if my rent its 1k46... But if i loose this help i will loose the help for the assurance health(430), and all the medical bill(because of a lot of sickness losing this now will condamn me to death...) Then i will need to be discret until a sell sufficiently to have at least 3k5 per month... 2. Having someone in my home, if she/he live, the number of people living at home divide by my rent, even if she/he dont receive any money and i just help... Fortunatly i have 3 month to prepare that. 3. My business is more slow than i thought theses 2 last month ive used a lot of money to make it real, i unfortunatly cant affort or with limit a new person.

I know her situation very well i promised her to help her, but i dont know if i can actually. Im. Affraid to loose all this because i wanted to help someone in need. Or Loose her respect/friendship because i broke a promise.

Today she said she will come, and i started to be affraid, a phrase my mother said to me yesterday resonated in my Mind.

"I hope you will not do something who make you loose all youre trying for soo long, i had a dream seeing you loosing all."

Unfortunatly my mother dream most of time are right.

I hope someone could give me a great advice.

Sincerely

M

Post scriptum: i received a letter 2 weeks ago of a revision of the handicap help, if my doctor, psy ect explain all normally i will stay with all, i even asked my psy to not explain my project right now, just to delais if possible this information. He will help me just to say my mental and physical situation.