Hey I’m (f21) a uni student living away from home with a bit of a “helicopter” parent as the term goes I believe.

I usually sort of give in to her anxieties because I don’t want her upset. They’re usually related to my health or safety and don’t really bother me because I’ve learnt to manage them (she doesn’t know a whole lot about my less “appropriate” lifestyle)

Since uni she has had a thing about having my whole families (including mine) location on her findmyiphone app and does check this when she cannot contact me or if I’m out in the evening.

I’ve recently had a breakup and I’m seeing some people (whom I trust) and having them to my house or going out with them. It might make more sense next academic term to go to theirs so I’m facing an issue of telling her where I am.

I HATE lying to her because it’s so exhausting. I know if I told her she would be a bit judgy and ask lots of questions and probably tell me not to and we would get into an argument. That being said I want the best long term solution because i can’t keep up with her expectations of me and I want to be an adult with my own independence and safety not to mention. I don’t want to feel weird about her knowing where I am.

Any advice?