Hello, I am 23 F, and I don’t know what to say/do. My dad is a dead beat and he wants to try to make contact again. I don’t know what to do.

For context, he was very abusive towards my mom and my siblings - it was to the point there was a court order. When that happened, I was only about 2 months old when he left so I never really knew this guy. But the abusive didn’t stop because my mom just went to another abusive partner and I grew up in that environment. My dad never tried to reach out or send anything but made contact with me at 14 years old. Meeting him for the first time didn’t feel exciting - felt exhausting and all he could do was insult me and my siblings. And telling me that none of the abuse was true and my mom and them were making it up for attention (even though there are documents proving otherwise). When him and his family flew back to their state, he never tried to visit me again. He became his new kids best father and made a family there.

So now, 10 years later, I’m 23 going to be 24 soon and I have my own family. He trying to make contact again and I don’t know what to do because my older sister has forgiven him for everything. But I don’t and I wish he never tried to reach out again. He’s known to have anger issues and likes to fight and is very manipulative. I have people telling me to try to make amends and others telling me to tell him how I feel and cut all contact. I feel spilt in the middle and not sure what to do.

TLDR: Dead beat dad wants to comeback in my life and I’m not sure what to say or do.