There’s quite a bit of backstory here but I’m going to try and keep it light. I have an ex who I was really into, talks of marriage, named the kids, moved in together at one point and all that in between. We had known each other for nearly a decade prior and everything just felt simple, easy, and right till it didn’t. To make a long story short she had been with the same guy for over half our friendship while she had a kid with and it got the point where I began to feel like I became a metaphorical punching bag for all of this guys wrong doings. I did anything I could to try to save the relationship and was the only one putting any real effort in, except for when she’d get mad that I was finally veering off and this went on for about a year.

Fast forward to the present, I’ve been hanging with a mutual friend quite a bit and we’re really hitting it off. We’ve both expressed interest in each other and I gotta say this is the first time I’ve felt this good about someone since the aforementioned ex. I myself have said I don’t really care how she’s going to feel about the whole thing because she really had put me through the ringer and hurt me consistently post breakup, but I don’t want it to cost this new girl her relationship with her either. She says she doesn’t care because she doesn’t think she’ll be that mad about it but if I know her like I think she’s going to take it super personal and just be livid.

Im sorry for the absolute text wall but I’m really starting to like this girl a lot and don’t want it to negatively effect her in any way. At the same time we have a lot of fun together and don’t want to miss on this opportunity but it feels pretty selfish at times.