So I have this best friend and roommate I developed feelings for, but can’t act on them. He’s been talking to his ex recently who has terminal cancer. They went on a cruise together and my best friend told me he developed feelings for him again. According to my friend, the feelings only came to light when the ex started love-bombing him out of nowhere. They get back from the cruise and the ex starts to pull away from my friend, which made him really depressed.

But then when my friend stopped giving his ex attention, the ex started to reach out to him again. Based off what my friend told me about his ex, the ex is a narcissist and this seems like very typical narcissist behavior. And out of nowhere again, the ex booked himself on the same cruise with my best friend for next month. My roommates and I have told my best friend to forget about his ex, but he won’t listen. I told him I don’t want to be involved with this situation at all.

Is it best to distance myself and let it play out? There’s so many red flags and I hate to see him be hurt, but I have my own feelings as well.