Greetings everyone, my apologies in advance if anything is spelled incorrectly or if I'm not 100% clear on everything. I'll do my best, but this is my first post EVER and if it is wrong to post here or needs to be taken down so be it, just please be kind when (if) it comes to that. With that in mind, here is a little bit of context:

I (27M) am happily married to my wife (27F) for going on two years now. We were dating for approximately 3 years before we got married, and while we've had our fights, I don't necessarily think that our marriage is failing or that some form of counseling or therapy is needed. We have recently found out due to medical reasons that she may be unable to have kids as well as that acts in the bedroom can physically harm her. Something that we have talked about to solve this problem is adding a third to our marriage so that I am able to have the "bedroom time" without having to go behind her back (Which I wouldn't do in the first place) as well as have someone there for her should she need someone for either romance (Which I will admit I'm not the greatest at) or for her medical problems should something happen while I'm at work or away from the house.

We have talked extensively about adding a third person to our marriage and it is something that she has said that she agrees that we may need a third and that she is okay with adding someone due to her problems. I'm worried that if I either accept this offer that she is making or even proceed with it that I could be considered an A-hole and that making this decision which would impact our marriage for the rest of it could have effects that neither of us are considering.

We have thought of adoption for the kids problem but due to specific problems which I will not mention here doesn't prevent us from adopting, just makes it extremely difficult to say the least.

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Bottom line: Both me and my wife are in agreement that we CAN add a third to our marriage, but the question for me to y'all is SHOULD we? Should I go with her approval looking for someone else to add to our relationship? What kind of problems might arise from this?