Hi there my 31F parents (57F and 71M) have been in the roughest spot of their marriage. I believe they have love for each other but both are either too stubborn or too depressed to do anything to help their situation.

Some background: my father has had a lot of loss in his life. He lost his first wife years before he met my mom. Over the last 10 years he’s lost his parents and his two brothers. We push for him to seek help, but he doesn’t. He sits at home and won’t TRY. Plus his health is in a rapid decline due to diabetes.

My mother acts older than her age. She has some type of undiagnosed ADD/OCD. She tries to support my father but he doesn’t listen to her and he’s not the man she once knew. She needs therapy because she runs a household that relies on her for everything.

Not to mention I have my brother 27M who is autistic, and my cousin they are raising 16M who was born addicted to PCP. He has another undiagnosed mental illness that puts a strain on my family (I think it’s bipolar disorder). He has manic outburst, has kicked walls, etc. nothing is ever his fault and everyone is just too mean. My parents are trying to raise and parent him how they did us, but it’s different.

Then you have me. The oldest and my sister, the second oldest. She’s able to turn shit off and disassociate from everything, but I’m left playing peacemaker/ begging my Dad to do something/ begging my mom to get therapy..

My parents lives have gone insane and I’m struggling to help them find help, but no one will do shit. Idk what advice I need. I just need someone to listen to me and help me, help them. They are so set in their ways it’s a struggle daily.

Thank you for your time.