Okay so for more context I guess here goes the whole spill. My wife and I split, she started dating another man while we were together and refused to stop seeing him when I found out. We were together for almost 8 years, split up about 6 months ago. I'm a home body, I get my daughter on the weekends and work monday-friday. Last 6 months have been an insane Rollercoaster of emotions and feelings but I feel I'm finally ready to start talking and attempting to date other women. Only problem is, I have no fucking idea where to start. I was in a marriage where if I made plans to take her on a date she would "forget" or just flat out tell me she didn't want to go the day of (yeah I know I should've left a long time ago). It causes some trauma. But I've been working on myself and have actually been pulling myself out of a rut that I thought was near impossible to get out of. I'm starting to see happiness in myself. Now I want some type of companionship and really just another person to talk to, share interests, go out to eat with, pretty much all the small things. But as I stated before, I have no idea where to even begin. I'm also 6 years sober and the advice I get from my friends is "just go to a bar" Well my dude, being sober and trying to talk to a female who's drunk is not fun at all. It makes me feel uncomfortable as well because there's so many ways that it could go south, one including me losing my sobriety and that is just not an option. My daughter would not forgive me and that's just not something I want. Anyone have any advice? Sorry for rambling I haven't been on reddit in years and I kinda don't even know if I'm using this sub correctly lol. Sorry for the rambles.