After 6 years of a relationship (off and on) where even our kids thought of each other as their parents, me and B ended it. I ended it due to abuse to both of our children and his infidelity. Beforehand, everything was 50/50 split. We were partners. We believed we would be together forever, so we found a beautiful $300k home. We paid it in cash FULLY. No mortgage. I did all the work, finding the house, moving into the house, talking to the realtor, getting all utilities established and paying the deposits, etc. He sold the home he owned that I was living in with him to help buy this house for us together which we BOTH signed the title to so my name IS on the deed. Joint tenants with rights to survivorship.

He is wanting to take the house in full and not give me anything, because what he sold his old house for is what he put into to buy OUR new house for, with my money mixed in as well. I don't make as much as him, so obviously I wasn't able to contribute as much monetarily as he was. All of our money (my paychecks, his paychecks, his inheritance, my extra income) went into a joint bank account, so I don't believe there is even a way to see fairly how much money I spent towards the home.

The day I decided to pack my things and leave, he came to the house before me with his friends and they sat around and laughed at me as my mom helped me . I had my 7 year old autistic/intellectually disabled child with me. I asked what was so funny, and he screamed in my kids face that hes a "retard" over and over again as him and his friends laughed. They barricaded my belongings in the garage, turned off the garage door, and put two heavy metal gun safes in front of the other door leading to it so I couldn't get most of my belongings he had placed in there. I called the police for a civil standby, they came, I asked if I had permission to break my windows so I could obtain my things, he said "yes it's your property. You do what you need to do to get your things." So I did. However I wasn't able to get much that day, because the officer couldn't stay long.

I came back a day later after work with my mother and I. No one was at the house. We were trying to pack my things up. Police arrived and issued me a protective order with false statements on it. He was trying to get me out of the house so he could have enough time to do what he had planned on doing. Which he wound up doing in the end. Protective order had the WRONG address on it, cops didn't catch it and neither did I. They threatened me and my mother with arrest if we didn't leave the home, so we panicked and left. This gave him and his friends time to steal my property and cause thousands in damage to my antiques.

We came back to the home days later after I had spoken to supervisor of the police that issued me a faulty protective order at the wrong address, and he said I had every right to go back to the house. However, now since the address B put on the protective order was my "babydaddys" house, now I wasn't legally even allowed to go and drop off or pick up my son over there without the threat of arrest. Anyways, I went back to my house.

Everything left of mine was gone or broken. I had really nothing. No home to call my own anymore because now the property was unliveable. My 7 year old and I have been having to stay with someone else. Most of my belongings were either stolen or missing. Hell, they even stole my collection of wigs, a lot of my makeup, lingerie, etc.

We went to court for the protective order. He, of course, brought the woman he was cheating on me with. The judge basically laughed and scoffed in his face when he brought up that I broke the windows and he was scared for his life. She said it was a civil matter and she denied the protective order.

Now, we own this beautiful home together. Again, both names on the deed. I want to go after an even 50/50 split regardless of how much money was put into it by whom. However, some people feel I am an asshole for it since they don't think I put 150k of worth into the home.

I was put through hell with this man, and I don't think I deserve to walk away with absolutely nothing, but I know that is what they are trying. B even said I deserve nothing. Regardless of what someone feels I "deserve", legally I do own half the house. If we can't come to a mediation, judge will then force a partition action and force us to sell and split the equity.

Would you go after a full 50% and dig your heels in at their lowball offers? I already have a lawyer and have spoken to several other lawyers, so I don't need legal advice.