Long story short,

Earlier this year my best friend and his wife convinced me to start chatting with best friends wife's cousin. They said there was no pressure, but they badgered me for over an hour until I finally agreed to talk to her.

She's a movie woman and we've connected on a few things, mostly our fondness for star wars, marvel movies, and a few other things. We mostly text every day and talk on the phone at least twice a week, sometimes three times.

At this moment I'm staying in her family's guest room. Oh yeah I failed to mention, she's 34 and still lives at home. This is the fifth time I've seen her irl and the third time I've stayed over.

She also has severe anxiety. In all the times we've spent together I've only ever held her hand a few times and once got half a hug. That's it. She talks fine through text, but over the phone and irl she barely contributes to the conversation.

She has lived a very sheltered life. Idk if it's her religious background, her father was a Chaplin I'm the army, or her anxiety. For example: a few hours ago we were flipping through Netflix trying to decide on a movie. We were talking about various movies we each seen. Then I came up on the breakfast club. She said she had never seen it. Being a classic flim I think everyone should see I suggested it. She became anxious and said she didn't want to because it's rated R and she prefers not to see rated R movies. And again she's 34. She further stated the only rated R movie she ever saw was passion of the Christ. This made me realize how much different we are. Not just movies and music and art, but so many aspects of life. It's like she has no willingness to try anything new or out of her tiny comfort zone. If this goes any further is this what the rest of my life will look like? I

The issue is her family seems to like me and are taking steps to get to know me and she is the cousin of my best friends wife. I want to find a way for this to work and show her the world, but idk at this point. Is this a lost cause? I don't see a way out without me losing everything.

Edit: I guess what I'm trying to say is that she is a nice woman and we've had some fun times together, but I don't feel we click on a mental level and I'm too far in to back out cleanly.