I moved in with my BIL a few months ago after leaving my wife, having only agreed because he promised me my own room with privacy and it’s own bathroom and a back entrance so I could smoke outside and none of his gf’s kids would be bothering me, we agreed that for that I’d pay $300 a month. Literally none of these things were true. My “private room” ended up being a mattress in the corner of the subfloors living room where his gf’s kids have bedrooms. I was immediately scolded the first time I used the back door to smoke. And I’ve caught him going through my shit at least 2 times that I’m certain of and keep finding things around my bed that aren’t mine so who know who’s doing what with my stuff when I’m not there. Now comes my real beef with him. There was a family dinner I couldn’t attend because I had to work and since I’ve had to start rebuilding my life I’ve had to buy lots of stuff online which resulted in my reuse of a large box as a trash can, apparently he took pictures of all my stuff and showed it off to the family trying to i guess shame me saying how disgusting I am when it was literally just a box full of boxes and some takeout bags. Since then I haven’t spoken to him or really stayed at their house, I think I’m the last 2 months since it happened I’ve slept there maybe 7-10 times out of necessity. I just got back to town and he keeps calling and texting but I’ve just been ignoring him since I get my own place in a few days. Honesty, I don’t think I should pay him but I’d bet the rest of the family would probably say I’m in the wrong.