I feel somewhat embarrassed to even ask this question since I want to play it cool and go with the flow but I just can’t get her off my mind. So I see my co-worker every Wednesday or so and I started speaking to her a month or two ago because she always smiled at me when I saw her. I saw her looking at me in the lunch room once so I decided to strike up a conversation.

I started going to her desk once a day to talk with her and she seems like a really interesting and sweet person but I don’t know if she likes me. She seems interested in what I say to her and we have some things in common (movies, video games, etc). However, I have a very sad past when it comes to talking to girls I like because they never liked me back.

Sometimes I feel as though I’m falling back into old habits of over-analyzing and trying to pursue someone that never liked me. I don’t want to fall into that again but I can’t seem to help myself. I don’t want to place too much weight on this and become disappointed if things don’t go that way but I can’t seem to stop myself. I even switched one of my work days from mondays to tuesdays just so I could see her more. But I noticed that she hasn’t been in on tuesdays lately and my mind is telling me that maybe she’s trying to avoid me but I can’t tell if that’s my toxic mindset speaking to me. Now I feel like a weirdo for doing that…

I asked her last Friday if she wanted to go see a movie with me and she said she was busy during that weekend. She mentioned before that she was going hiking with a friend and cat-sitting so that’s probably why. I asked if she was free next weekend and she said she’ll have to see. What do I do? What do I think? I’m not really sure what I’m asking her but I would like some input on what I’ve been thinking about.