So this is going to be a long post. Please see ending for TL;DR. Thanks!

Okay, all my life I have had mental health problems. I don't remember 90% of my childhood. So learning I was Sexually assaulted at age 5 by two girls (which currently I'm trying to figure out if i should consider it r*pe). I have identified my dad as a narcissist and that he ruined both my mothers and my life. I was abused by my friends in elementary school, I've been suicidal and self harmed a lot.

I am currently 21 trying to cope with all of these events in my life while dealing with Borderline Personality disorder, anxiety so high that its unbearable, PTSD, and some eating issues. I also owe 40k in debt to family and creditors because of a depression an ex sent me into....

Now you have the back story, here is what i need advice on. For my whole life I have never had any close friends and i have never been able to think of myself positively. but, lately i stood up to my dad about the treatment of his cats and how im not taking shit anymore. Which has made me increase my confidence and start seeing a whole new reality of life. What i am currently working through is my reality of building friends and getting a girlfriend. So I've started to watch a lot of people on social media talking about relationships and specifically the issues men deal with. Which I know there are mistreatments in the way women are treated vs men just based on my mental health journey.

When i was talking to my mom last night, I brought up one of those issues and she SNAPPED. Started yelling at me to get out of the house and what I'm talking about is incel and that if i ever mention that again i better leave her house (i live with her due to the debt). I should say that my entire life, i have never had anything but love and respect for women. I acknowledge their struggles and reason to be afraid of men and such. So, i have never thought about being alined with Incel culture. You should know that my anxiety was already high that day. this sent me over the edge and i was having a panic attack because i felt unsafe. My house was the only place i felt remotely safe and now i don't even feel safe here. I texted my therapist and she dismissed it as my mom having a hard day.

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What I need to know is. Is there a resource to find housing when you don't have a job, don't have friends, and have debt? As well as, Should i just cut my family completely out of my life? my sister is the only one i like currently. I dont know what i can talk about with my mom anymore.

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TLDR; The one place i felt safe, my house, I no longer feel safe in and dont know where to go.