I work 2 full time jobs. During the day I work at a dispensary and at night i work in healthcare. I am very big about not bringing work into my personal life and that also includes co workers. I’m always open to getting to know people but at my current jobs i realize that these aren’t people i want in my life.

ANYWAYS with all that being said. i have a co worker that i get along with very well. she is new to the area and doesn’t have any friends close by. First time we were supposed hang out she had to cancel bc of her kid which is fine bc that’s your child. The more i get to know her tho the less I want to hang out and she often brings up the fact i don’t want to hang out. “i’m too cool” “i don’t don’t like her” or she’ll guilt trip me by saying she’s lonely. No Darling, i work 2 jobs and only have saturday’s off im just tired even if i did want to hangout i’d have to call off work and i’m sorry but i just don’t think she’s worth calling off work for. lately she’s been more distant at work and i can just assume it’s bc there’s tension from not hanging out outside work.

to share one of many reasons i don’t want to hangout with her is that she and majority of my co workers are rather comfortable with making racist remarks(i’m black and it makes me very uncomfortable). to others it may be whatever but to me the things people say and do can make or break whatever relationship we have wether it was directed towards me or not.

disclaimer: in past jobs i’ve had great experiences with co workers outside of work while still being able to keep work and my personal life separate im just not open to it at this current job. besides that i’ll only really hangout if i quit or if you quit. with all this being said, am i being rude? is this not how things work? i do feel bad bc i know what it’s like being lone in a new city but i think she’ll be okay.