Here’s the deal. I’m 30 and single and absolutely hate it. I’m a slender/scrawny build with a little bit of a belly, but want to attract more women.

My thought process lately has been “If they’re not interested in you now, you should get into better shape and see if that makes a difference. If it doesn’t, then that proves that there’s something wrong with me.”

I just feel like I’m coming from a place of already putting myself down and hoping that the motivation pays off, and I just don’t know if it’s a healthy thought or approach to have.

Does this make sense? Should I still pursue getting myself into shape, or am I just setting myself up to fail? I don’t know if anyone can relate to this struggle, but I could really use a second opinion. Thanks.