Its been a few years since I broke up with my ex. I havent really met anyone for a relationship. I wasted a few years not dating after my breakup.

I am 35M. I have never been married. I have no kids. I have a good job. I am 178 cm. I am healthy. No disabilities or mental issues.

I live in the netherlands. I am an expat though so I can see some people not willing to date an expat. I tried to date internationally by posting on r4r subreddits but that also failed.

I have been single for a few years now. I have tried dating apps but they have been a massive waste of time so far. I spend a lot of time composing messages specific to the persons profile and they either ignore it or disappear after a few messages. A few times I ran into married women looking for affairs. Sometimes they are scammers.

I tried posting on all the reddit dating subreddits. They are even worse than dating apps. Atleast on the dating apps I met my ex. On r4r subreddits people are even less serious than dating apps.

I dont drink so I dont go to bars/clubs.

I am an introvert that doesnt go out a lot. I go to work, go to the gym, go for a walk daily. I dont want to approach women at work/gym. Its typically not preferred and I dont want to bother anyone at work or working out. I do travel internationally once a year but the window is very small to meet someone.

I dont have any other activities. And when people say "Go out and meet people" I dont really know where should I go to. And even if that would help since I dont speak dutch. I speak english.

How do I meet women for a serious realtionship when I dont want to use dating apps and I am an introvert who doesnt go out?

Any advice is welcome honestly.